Life is a Daring Game

Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all. – by Helen Keller

        

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By Soni

Helen Keller said, “Life is a daring adventure or nothing at all. (God forgive me for modifying her quote) I want to say “Life is either a daring game or nothing else.

Life is a Divine bliss of God to mankind. God gives us birth and handover the wonderful play ground to play the “Game of Life” for life time. In this play ground we find so many areas to play such as home (personal), office (professional) and society (personal and professional development). Here we all are assigned so many duties and responsibilities, which we have to play willingly and sometimes wilfully or forcefully. In this game of life, there are so many team-mates and so many opponents. We have to win the heart of our team mates and face the challenges of the opponent.

Each and every individual is free to choose his/her move and it depends on him/her how to play. The result depends on your sheer hard work. Every move is full of challenge and responsibilities, there is no second time. There are so many moves, ups and downs. There are so many hurdles and problems, if we face them with all our wit, we will be awarded with the advantage of happiness, peace, success and content. This game is interesting for some and restless for some. Player must have confident of his move and optimist towards the result then only he will win the game.

The result for this “Game of Life” is sweet for some and sour for some. Both of them believe that it’s the Destiny. We all are puppet in the hands of destiny and we must abide by it, but there are the players of the game, who throws the challenges to the Destiny and make their rules, plays and win the game as per desire. They dare to play the game and they come out as real winner. They make their own Destiny, thus they are called “Winner”.

 

Editor’s Note:  Soni is from India and loves to share his thoughts on personal development.

With a Smile

Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened. – by Dr. Seuss

 

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By Buena Laoang

It is good to be back! For the month of April, I missed sharing with everyone on this site, due to some personal matters, which I must say, are among those that matter most in my life.

Well, let me share it to you! As to how I spent April, the acronym would have been W-I-S-E.

W- Weeklong reflection. It was then the remembrance of the holy week, and thru the whole week I tried to be reminded of the life lessons the Lord has willed me to go through in each phase of my existence. I summed up being grateful, praising, and more in love with the Lord.

I-Inspired teaching. The second week I organized a class among age 10-12 pre-teens, on a refresher course cum motivation for high school life. It was indeed an invigorating event for me to teach again. It filled my heart with joy and made me remember my very blessing in life. Because of it, more books will also be acquired for a dreamed community library and learning resource center.

S- Satisfying relationships. The third week was devoted to satisfying the different relationships I have. I met with Alpha to chat personally when she had come home to the Philippines, and another best friend who arrived from Italy, and more from our hometown. Our family celebrated on our 8th wedding anniversary, the little story of which shared here last week. And then I joined a spiritual convention among women uphill, where I had the opportunity to work with energetic, very determined senior citizens in an evangelizing mission. In all these, what I realized is that, a person’s achievement can be measured in many ways- the possessions he gained, the degrees he attained, the fields he excelled at… but real life fulfillment- according to these same persons- can only be measured by how huge the heart has become because of the love that gets in!

E- Enjoying it all. And yes- just enjoying each experience that comes my way. God is the author of my life; He gives me freedom to act on my will, and opportunities to make His creations (including myself!) every day better. I shall just want to live according to Thy ways, and deal with every circumstance with a prayerful heart. I shall labor and eat the fruits of my labor. I shall give and sure to receive. I will just pray.

That’s how my WISE April has been spent, shared to you today. And this May, I am going to resume on the weekly challenges with the acronym, WORK.

Please, I invite you to get involved once again! I believe that in about more than 80 countries, May is fueled by a celebration of the International Workers’ Day, which is May 1. So, this month we will explore WORK.

And we have this first challenge this month- Work WITH a SMILE :)

Isn’t that an easy start?

Not only that a smile can gladden people who see you, lift their spirit, or leave a bit of inspiration on their part. Your smile will also keep YOU healthy, cool, glowing with beauty, and exuding warmth through the days!

Smile!

And when the soul becomes downcast, kneel down and pray, and believe me, after the spirit has rested its case with God, you’ll soon be enjoying your days with a smile.

PS.  I will be asking our editor to empower this post more with that song, “With a Smile” by the Eraserheads, a famed band here in the Philippines. Or you can try this one on YouTube, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9cI0zaipQkE. I just wanted to share that song to you, and hope that you will all be touched by it and inspired, as much as it does to me every time. :)

 

Editor’s Note: Buenaflor Laoang-Rosete contributes weekly on AMSDaily. You can visit her blog at Barefoot Life Reflections to read more about inspiring stories.

Saturday Success Story #28: John Michael Dellariarte of I CAN make a difference

By Alpha Miguel-Sanford

 

Things happen when you least expect it  – so goes the saying.

John Michael Dellariarte, did not expect the start of his advocacy campaign when he was involved in an academic requirement for his medical course inLakewood, Zamboanga del Sur. He went to this place with the purpose of getting a school project completed but he discovered more than that. He realized what the community truly needed and he responded with a simple strategy.

John said that “it all started with my project. It was a solar reflector made from aluminum soda cans and cardboard. The community we adopted had problems with drinking water, we tested several sited and turned out positive for fecal coliform. In essence people there were drinking water contaminated with human and animal feces. Then, we proposed the solar reflector. you put your drinking water in a PET bottle put it inside the reflector then expose it to sunlight. The water is ready to drink after 2-3 hours of exposure. So then, we needed to collect cans for the reflector. I formed a group of volunteers and proposed a plan to them. we came up with a campaign called the “I CAN” make a difference (collecting cans thus “I CAN). a campaign to collect 5000 aluminum cans. The campaign ran through schools, universities and some food businesses in ZamboangaCity.”

John and his I CAN team are currently constructing a health center which is made from soda bottles filled with cement mix. This project is innovative as it responds to two things: environmental rescue (of plastic bottles) and promotion of health and wellness.

John is leading his TEAM in best direction possible. He has his eyes set for environmental and health awareness. He wants more people to be knowledgeable of these issues. He envisions telling everybody his story.

And this is his story:

 

AMS: Tell us about yourself. Your background, your education and your current project.

John: I am John Michael F. Dellariarte. I’m 26 years old, raised as a Roman Catholic and with two siblings. I am a senior medical student at the Ateneo de Zamboanga University School of Medicine. My premed  degree is in Political Science, then I went to nursing and finally I am now in the medicine field.

 
AMS: Why did you start I CAN make a difference.

John: We’re sent to rural communities across Zamboanga peninsula as early as first year. There we conducted standardized surveys to identify problems of communities; as for my case, Lakewood Zamboanga del Sur. We presented these problems to the community, facilitated them and prioritized these problems, and together, we implemented strategies to solve these problems.

One of the problems identified was diarrhea. I thought, there has to be something wrong with their water. We tested several water sources, and they turned out positive for fecal coliform. People there were essentially drinking water infected by human and animal feces. I thought of how will we be able to provide a means of non costly, convenient, eco-friendly means of household water disinfection. I thought of developing a device that will harness the sun’s energy to disinfect water. I thought of converting the aluminum cans into solar reflectors to disinfect water. I created a prototype and scientifically established its efficacy through laboratory tests. After this, I needed to create solar reflectors for the community people ofLakewood, I needed 5000 to jumpstart the project.

I went on to partner with volunteers and created the I CAN make a difference, a campaign to collect the needed number of cans. This campaign was a collection of soda cans thus I “CAN”. The campaign ran through the major schools in ZamboangaCity, and even some elementary schools inLuzonhelped. The schools were not only collection points for cans but served as information avenues for Waste Disposal and Management seminars provided by I CAN volunteers. We ended up collectiing more than 8000 cans! The response of people were phenomenal and this has inspired us to do more for the community.

 
AMS: What are your hopes for this project?

John: We want to forward the idea of intercommunity development- communities helping other relatively deprived and underserved communities. I CAN make a difference envisions to facilitate the creation of a more sensitive and more responsive network of communities with a deeper experience of nation-building.

 
Raise awareness of the problematic situations involving children, women and indigenous peoples of a community, especially concerning health and education; and address these problems through the mobilization of people, social institutions, and social entities of communities. Through its projects, the team continually endeavor to champion the women, the children, the indigents, the poor, and the environment all of which have the propensity to be abused and be marginalized. We pray that we will be able to bring EVERYONE on board, since we believe that any problem is too big for any one person, organization, or institution; to solve the problems that prevail in our communities and our nation as a whole, would need the cooperation of everyone. We aspire someday to be symbols of hope for every one.

 
AMS: Who are your motivators and support?

John: God has been so good to us since the beginning of the advocacy. He has set everything in place to make the advocacy such a rewarding and fulfilling journey. The plight of the children, the women, the indigents, the environment, the marginalized continually drive us to do our best and more. The team renders support to each other. We draw inspiration from each other as well, from profoundly dedicated and hardworking individuals. Our many partners, who have been good to us, continue to support our projects infuse us with a feeling of empowerment that we feel that there is nothing we cannot do when we are united.

 
AMS: What do you think makes your project a success? What makes it stand out?

John: I personally believe that all men are born good. All of us have that inherent inclination to protect those that do not have the capacity to protect themselves. And, as humans, it is in our nature to associate, to find others who have the same story as ours, that we may speak our truth more confidently knowing there are others sharing the same truth, empowering us to fulfill our liberties.

We believe that our projects were successful because of the support of the team, partners, and everyone who stepped out and joined us to make a difference. We would like to believe that our projects have inspired so much support because these projects are in tangent with these basic human inclinations: protecting the children, the women, the indigents, the poor, and the environment. The projects send out the stories of these stakeholders, empowering them when they witness the magnitude of support that their story can elicit.

The projects stand out because of the stories behind it. The environmental implications and the Maternal and Child Health Care impact of the PET bottle Lying-in Center; the environmental implications and health benefits of the solar reflector to children and the general population, the environmental implications and the economic protection of the disabled workers by the ECO bag, and the Kiddie eco bag’s impact on the children’s education. (kiddie eco bag is a twin school bag: for every bag sold, an equivalent bag will be given to a child who dont have his own school back). It is the intersecting stories behind our projects that make them unique.

AMS: Did you always want to be involved in causes for the good of the people?

John: I remember of numerous times, of strong feelings of really wanting to set out to help others. I remember being involved in several relief operations during my college days, being a volunteer and trying to help out as much as I can. Then came the medical school with the academic demands, community and hospital duties, and community health projects. Planning and implementing the community health projects with my classmates and the people really brought into perspective the amount of work that still need to be done and I think the relationship we forged with the people really made the work more of a personal thing.

 
AMS: You said you are a premed student, how do you correlate your project with the field that you hope to enter someday?

John: Honestly, I want to be a plastic surgeon and pathologic dermatology. These two fields have been my passion ever since I can remember. Surgeries like skin grafting and reconstructive surgeries are extremely costly these days, just imagine a burnt patient coming from a lower economic strata, who can barely afford his next meal. How will he be able to pay something like skin grafting? Imagine the scars and contractures that will form and change the way he looks? Imagine what this will do to his confidence? This will scar him not only physically and emotionally. This even makes it harder for him to find a job as many employers may think he is not physically fit to do the job?

As for pathologic dermatology, imagine the number of children living with skin diseases, rampant because of congested living space. I’d like to channel my expertise to promote preventive measures while implementing treatment schemes to treat them. These two specialties have been highly commercialized and identified with glamour and vanity. I would like to show the world the more profound side of these specialties, my passions.

 
AMS: Aside from the I CAN project that you are leading, what are some of your achievements that are not yet mentioned?

John: I have been a consistent Dean’s lister in college and I graduated AB political science Magna Cum Laude. I am also a national orator and has been the best debater for two consecutive years in Western Mindanao State University (WMSU). While at the university I also founded the WMSU debate varsity.

 
AMS: What are your goals for yourself as the founder of I CAN and also as an individual?

John: I wish I will be able to convince more volunteers to join the cause. I wish that I will be better equipped with the right wisdom and attitude to guide them to the right mindset in life. I wish to create opportunities that will develop the team, not only their individual skills, but their substance as well. I wish to create more collaboration that will enable to expand the reach of the advocacy, to discover more stories and change more lives. I wish the advocacy will someday be a symbol of hope to everyone that by mere glance of its seal will make the viewer safer, confident, and empowered.

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How to Become Popular: 5 Ways

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I know you want to be popular. Don’t worry, it is not just you -but most people I know. I have seen it, observed it and have studied it myself! There  is actually no way of hiding it- I know you seek a level of popularity – be it in your family, your circle of friends, at work, in your choice of social networking site such as Facebook or in the restaurant – you know you want to be seen, or heard, or be attended to! You want to be the popular person in the room whose presence is felt every time you walk in the door.

But don’t you wish you were really that popular?

So popular that everyone around you awaits for your arrival, awaits for your next idea, awaits for your next move, or your next Facebook/Twitter shout out! You wanna be that popular, right?

But somehow, some way you are not getting the audience that you want.

Here’s why:

1. You do not have the attention of your audience. Get their attention first. Do not enter the door or interrupt a conversation if your audience is busy doing something else. Wait until everybody is almost bored or is not doing anything, then get your acts together and do your thing. Start talking. Do something entertaining and make it real.

2. You are not believable. People know if you are a phony or trying hard to become the “it” individual in the room. People feel it. They know it. So, if you are just putting a show just because you really want to gain that front seat, forget it you will not get it. You have to be real and make sure you own yourself, including your mistakes.

3. You do not have an agenda. You want to be popular because….? If you want to be popular do not become popular because you want to manipulate your own agenda towards your audience. Become popular because you want something good to happen, or you want to make things right and possibly create better rules. You want to be popular because you have a meaningful purpose not a hidden, selfish agenda.

4. You are a copycat. You know you are not going to be popular if you do not have your own style. You have to have your own brand. You have to stand out and be a distinct member of the group, or the society at large. You have to be yourself and be good at it. Yes it is quite an excellent idea to study the lives and the strategies of people you admire, but going the distance and copying every single thing they do or put on themselves won’t do you any good. In fact, continuing to do so will just doom you for bigger failures.

5. You do not get personal. Most of the popular people I know within my network are popular because they really get personal. When I say they get personal they know the important facts about you, they remember events close to your heart and strike conversations that pertain to your family, your love life and your interest. They do not start talking with you about the weather, or the sports game they just saw or the latest news – but they go beyond these universal topics and  grips your heart when they ask, “so, how is your   Mom doing? When is her next trip to the Philippines?”

So, if you want to be popular and be good at it, look at the reasons. Use them and make it happen.

And when you become more popular and successful, let me know! I love reading about successful people and featuring them here.

Saturday Success Story Eleven: ABNER FELIX

These days one of the easiest way to know the credibility and integrity of a person is by typing his name on any one of the search engines, (Google if you may) and it will generate the results that you so want to see and read. Gone are the days of waiting for the results of a CORI or the long lines of going to the NBI to get your cleared records. In these days of instant communication and information technology at the end of your fingertips, finding people whom you’ve known and met years ago and how they have fared through life since the last time you’ve seen them, has been as easy as hitting a “that was easy!” button from Staples!

Take our Saturday Success Story for instance. If you type in his name on Yahoo.com (we’ll use that instead of Google) the first thing that will pop up from the results is a facebook page. If you are friends with him, you will surely land on his wall and his information. On that page, you will be able to take a peek of what and who he is, and why he is a success story.

As an Engineering graduate from the University of the Philippines, our success story of the week has been trained to lead and succeed. The academic rigor at the UP-Diliman campus has prepared him very well to handle the pressure and the expectations of a would-be executive. Even at an early age, he was already being prep to succeed. Being the only son to a public school teacher, Mrs. Juliana Felix and a former school teacher, Mr. Armando Felix (noted for his Dad’s looks and many of the townspeople know him by is name “Manding”!), he grew up to exceed and meet their high standards.  In fact, he graduated as the valedictorian from grade school! In high school he was involved in many leadership activities which later on served him very well. He finished high school as the class salutatorian from Tarlac College of Agriculture-Laboratory High School in Camiling, Tarlac.

Talked about overachiever at an early age! Hence, being an overachiever gets a person to where he puts his heart into. Once an achiever, always an achiever. That was the idea that our success story has in mind long before he was able to feel comfortable in his life.

Because he was true to his passion and what he has learned from college, he pursued his interests, his first love and he stuck to it even if it meant leaving the Philippines. That first love was – providing what is the best for his family and for the future of his only daughter.

When he arrived in New York, as most Filipino immigrants would have experienced – life was not really filled  with honey and milk immediately, nor all the time. But because he was incredibly talented and smart, he was blessed to land a job that fulfills his passion.

What is  also notable about him is that he is proud and happy to lead one of New York universities’ Environmental Health and Safety Council. As the Director in one of the largest urban public universities in the United States, he has a big job to attend to. He has his hands full! In fact, if you are one of the Directors of a campus that has over 480,000 students, you have an obligation to adhere to the standard culture of achievement of that campus! You have to – you do not have a choice. But, what is even more extraordinary about this is that, if you are the only Filipino in the whole university who is part of the administration team, then – that becomes a joy to remember! That becomes historical! YOU become a part of the history and then you hope somebody recognizes your effort for being the only Filipino in the administration team who is behind the push and the many initiatives of the university!

Such is the career path of MR. ABNER FELIX, a family man, one of the College Directors of the Environmental and Health Safety, Dad of Allyanna, tee-time goer, sports junkie and most importantly, he recognizes where he came from and is thankful for it!

Addendum: Now, before you read the rest of this post what really makes our Saturday Success Story a hot entry on Google search , google your name first and see what comes up.

Here is his humbling story:

AMS: Tell us about yourself. Your education, training and where you are currently involved in.
AF: I consider myself a go-getter, have high standards and always motivated to master something I put my mind into, whether its work, sport, hobby or particular interest I have. Being with people – working with them, being involved in a cause, engaging in similar interest or entertaining – comes naturally to me .

While I don’t consider myself a perfectionist, I strive for excellence in everything I do. I always do my best, accept mistakes and learn from them without feeling unworthy or diminishing self-esteem.

I believe I have an eye for aesthetics and technology – it can be fashion, home design, electronics, technology. My style or preference in design is modern contemporary.

I consider myself a sports junkie, musically inclined, tech guy and someone who has never forgotten where he came from.

I finished my Bachelors Degree in Metallugical Engineering at University of Philippines, certified in several Materials and Process Engineering areas and Environmental Compliance and Occupational Health and Safety. In the Philippines, I worked at San Miguel Corporation, MOOG, Inc. (Baguio Branch).

In the U.S., I started with Cleanharbors, an environmental management company that supports top pharmaceutical clients, semiconductor and aerospace companies and universities.

Most recently, I was an Assistant Director/Environmental Health Specialist (EHS) at Hunter College in New York. Currently, I am EHS Director of the City University of New York’s (CUNY) Bronx Community College.

AMS: At this point in your life, what are some of your greatest achievements?
AF: Getting my engineering degree at UP Diliman remains one of my greatest achievements, something that at one point didn’t seem to be possible given financial difficulties in my family. Even if I was the only child, it was hard relying on my mom’s public school teacher paycheck only.

Migrating to the United States and making it here professionally is another achievement. I never dreamt of it, but it’s definitely a blessing that it happened to me.

Being considered one of the EHS leaders in the largest urban university (CUNY) is also an important milestone in my career.

Lastly, being a family man – husband and father to a wonderful 12-year old daughter – is something I am most proud of. My wife is the yin to my yang while my daughter keeps me driven to continue to work hard for her future.

AMS: In going for these achievements, who helped you? Did you have any mentor or somebody who helped you while pursuing your career?

AF: I didn’t really have a mentor, maybe because of my independent nature. However, there’s somebody whom I believed always helped me, pushed me, motivated me – it’s my wife. Shirley taught me to reach for things I never even thought were possible. She’s been always there when I need somebody to cheer for me, to rally my spirits, listen and tell me that everything is possible and I can do it!

My mom (Mrs. Juliana Felix) is my inspiration. She has a soft-spoken and submissive nature, but what I will not forget is that she never said ‘NO” to me. She always makes things happen for me when I was in high school and college, even though we were living from paycheck to paycheck, or if it meant going door-to-door to borrow money so I can get my weekly allowance, pay for bus fare so I can continue my schooling.

AMS: If, you were to tell us what are the most important skills that you need in order to be successful – what are they?

AF: I think that it’s important to be willing to take risks and possess problem solving and creative skills.

It is also critical to always have a plan and contingency plans if things don’t go your way the first time. One should not give up right away and having a plan keeps you on course to achieving your goals, whether short or long-term. One always has to know how to work with people, get them motivated and be able to influence them.

AMS: You work in NYC as an Engineer, right? What do you think is the biggest challenge when you were starting out your career in the United States? How did you overcome some of these challenges?

AF: I am not really practicing my profession as an engineer now, per se, but because of my previous engineering work and skills during the first few years of my career in the Philippines, I was able to apply this in my present occupation. The biggest challenge for me was communication and adapting to the American workplace culture and employee-employer set-up.

Another issue is discrimination which is still prevalent in the US, where you are judged based on where you came from, your accent, your education. Establishing credibility doesn’t happen overnight, you have to earn it, then respect will come and people will stop judging you and see what you can bring to the table. Sometimes, people are surprised how accomplished or experienced you are because you are not from the US, and came from another country.

AMS:  While growing up Manong, what were your dreams? Have you reached all of them? If not yet, what are you doing to achieve them?

AF: As a child, I’ve always wanted to be a doctor or lawyer. But my ultimate dream is simple — to be able to give a better life to my parents and having a better life than the one my parents had. Being an Environmental Health and Safety person, I guess, somewhat gives me the satisfaction – my present job requires basic medical knowledge in identifying and solving potential adverse health effects of chemicals and hazardous substances on campus, and the part of environmental and occupational safety compliance to regulatory mandates takes the other half of my ultimate dream. Come to think of it, my job right now actually has aspects of being a medical doctor/lawyer job combined work wise, that makes it fulfilling and challenging.

AMS: What are your next goals? for your family and for your professional growth?

AF: My primary goal is to provide the best education that I can afford for my daughter Alyanna to help her reach her fullest potential, be able to give her the opportunities that I never had.

Professionally, I dream of setting up my own environmental management company catering to demands of private and public sectors in the fields of environmental consultancy, remediation, testing, etc.

I also plan to get a graduate degree, but I haven’t decided yet which academic avenue I should focus on.

Lastly, I also would like to retire well with my wife, be able to enjoy what we have accomplished in our life together and I look forward to spending my twilight years, most likely traveling and retiring in our dream house by the water or an incredible view, maybe with my dream car parked in our garage.

Daily with you,

Alpha :-)

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