Stop Trying to Help where it’s not Wanted

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By Stuart Young

 

Take the opportunity today to Stop trying to help where it’s not wanted.

 

Sometimes people aren’t ready to be helped and you’ll only frustrate yourself. We’ve all been there, trying to offer the right advice at the right time except it’s being rejected.

 

You can see what’s going on, it’s obvious what needs to happen, you explain it clearly but your advice falls on deaf ears. Why is that?

 

Because the person you are trying to help is not ready to be helped. And you know what? We’ve all been in that place ourselves. If you really thought about it, you’d remember a time when you weren’t ready for someone’s help even though you knew it was the right thing. It may have been when you were a child and you were trying to ride your bike – you didn’t want your dad holding you in case you fell, you wanted to do it on your own.

 

Although this is frustrating to the helper, sometimes it’s exactly what’s required as sometimes people have to just figure it out for themselves.

 

So, offer help but accept when it’s not heeded.

 

About the Author: Stuart Young writes his thoughts on his blog How To Change Your Life One Day At A Time. He  launched his book on this topic in May 2012 and has since helped people change their lives. Click here to get your copy now! He is also one of the authors of the book, “The Best Inspirational Storie I Ever Read: Guide to a Purposeful Life”.

Opportunities

 

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Question of the Day:
Do you believe in making your own opportunities?
Or do you believe in letting them come to you?
About the Author: Ronald Colunga is a regular contributor for AMSDaily.net. He writes his thoughts on his website at  Lifessteppingstone.com!

Six Ideas in Creating your own Sabbath

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” – Buddha

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By Catia Michelle

 

1. Try to set aside one day this week, preferably Saturday or Sunday (Sabbath was meant to be celebrated with others, so finding a day where your family and friends will be present can be helpful) to be free from work, too many chores, meetings, etc. Etc. My rule of thumb: If it causes me stress or worry, I put it aside on the Sabbath. I created a Sabbath Basket: I put my homework, stressful papers, to-do lists etc. Into the basket on Saturday night. 

 

2. Quit before 10 p.m. the night before. Sabbath is dependent on getting lots of rest. Go to bed early and don’t set the alarm if you can help it. When you wake up in the morning, do something inspiring right away.For me: I love a good cup of coffee with classical music and my favorite novel. Or taking a very early morning walk in the Environmental Center by my house (with that same cup of coffee). I often call a friend and ask if they want to walk before Church and chat. 

 

3. Limit technology. More and More I find that the mandate to “stay close to home” that many Jewish people follow is perhaps smart. Technology opens worlds for us, which is a beautiful thing, but perhaps one day a week it’s ok to shut things off and focus on the space and relationships that are before us. Can you do without your computer for a day? Iphone or Ipod? What about your Car? Can you walk to the places you need to be and enjoy the sights and sounds? 

 

4. Say No. You will have to say No to somebody or something if you choose to keep a Sabbath. Sometimes I say “no” even to GOOD things, like Workshops or Parties. I do try to see some friends or write letters to family/friends on the Sabbath, but I am an introvert and I try and honor that on my Sabbath day. Saying No to chores, too, can be ok! Can you do them on Saturday? 

 

5. Plan Ahead. This is the most important key for Sabbath Keeping! If you are a student, in order to keep Sabbath you have to do homework and work on Saturday. If you are a parent, you have to do the laundry and chores on Saturday. This can be hard, but it’s like any habit, the more you practice it the more used to it you get. 

 

6. Make a list of Sabbath Activities. Sometimes, without my usual technology or homework, I get a little stir-crazy by 6 p.m. I keep a list of my favorite things to do on Sabbath, that I don’t have time for others days of the week, so I can look at it and get excited about new and fun activities. I try to ask myself: what does my body and mind want to (or need to) do in this moment? Also: napping is always a good plan :-) Some suggested Sabbath Activities: Walks, Drawing in Nature, Reading novels, Writing letters, Cooking a new kind of food, Painting or other artwork, Walking to the coffee shop and getting my favorite treat, Games with friends, Coffee with friends, Yoga, Lovemaking/time with your Significant Other, Calling family far away, Bubble Baths, Baking treats, Home spa treatments.

 

Enjoy your Sabbath this week my friends. The best way to start Sabbath is to just try it! Once you try it, if you are like me, you’ll be hooked! 

Peace and Grace!

 

Editor’s Note: Catia Michelle is a pastor, book lover, Mennonite, community gardener, tea drinker and writer. She is delighted to be contributing to AMS Daily! She blogs regularly at http://joyfortoday2012.wordpress.com. 

Footprints in the Sand

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One night a man had a dream.

He dreamed he was walking along the beach with the Lord.

Scenes from his life flashed across the sky
and he noticed two sets of footprints in the sand,
one belonging to him and the other to the Lord.

 

When the last scene of his life had flashed before him,
he recalled that at the lowest and saddest times of his life
there was only one set of footprints.

Dismayed, he asked, “Lord, you said that once I decided to follow you,
you’d walk with me all the way.
I don’t understand why, when I needed you most,
you would leave me.”

The Lord replied, “My precious child.
I love you and I would never leave you.

During your times of trial and suffering
when you saw only one set of footprints…

That was when I carried you.”

Light and Love: On Friendships

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By Ria G. Rombaoa

 

Dear Alpha,

Now I’m trying to ask myself if I am a friend that is worth keeping? LOL

True friends are really hard to find that is why we call them treasures. I consider myself blessed to have these treasures even if most of the time my unavailability sucks and yes, oftentimes I don’t keep my promises.

One important lesson that I have learned recently has something to do with honesty and forgiveness. When something is wrong, we should let our friends know what we really feel regardless of how he or she will react to it. Ignoring and keeping things to ourselves is like closing a wound with all the infections in it. Telling the truth will never be easy but if friends have this strong bond of trust and love, they will be able to forgive each other and it will make the realtionship stronger than before….

Ria

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