Take the Opportunity: Call Someone You haven’t Spoken to in a While

All days are nights to see till I see thee,
And nights bright days when dreams do show thee to me. – by William Shakespeare, “Sonnet XLIII”

Photo of Shem-shem Pablo

Maybe it’s an old friend or acquaintance. Maybe a family member or a previous neighbour. If they spring to mind as you ponder this then take that as a sign that maybe it’s a good time to reconnect.
 
This could also become a healing process if there was a reason for your loss of contact. Be the one that makes the effort to talk again. You might find you missed them more than you realised and vice versa.
 
Wounds can heal, trespasses can be forgiven, friendships can be rekindled. Simply reaching out in this way could make a real change for you or the person you call or both.
 

Editor’s Note: Stuart Young writes his thoughts on How To Change Your Life One Day At A Time. Yesterday, his first book was launched and the first 100 people to buy his book will get a signed one. Click here for it.

Special Edition Story: (the) Happy Spaces Project

Caseysimone Cooper,  co-creator of (the) happy spaces project shares with us her ideas and thoughts of how happiness and contentment are projected through the lens of various people around the world. Through her project, she is able to unite people around the globe to share their ideas of happy spaces – and how they look like in their own perception. As one of the creative thinkers of (the) happy spaces project, she sees in the submission of photos and peoples’ ideas of what happy spaces are and how they influence the lives of everybody on earth! In every photograph being submitted and shared on her site, lies an understanding of one’s own space and how it creates a magnitude impact into the lives of many.

This is her story:

AMS:     Tell us about yourself: your education, training and what you are currently involved in.

Caseysimone: I am currently completing my undergraduate studies in Design and Society at Bennington College, a liberal arts school in Vermont. I have worked for a public health non-profit, an architecture firm specializing in green building, an architecture firm specializing in mixed-use residential developments, and I am currently working for a freelance designer, Gong Szeto. I am now working on a user-sourced blog, (the) happy spaces project.

AMS: I love your (the) Happy Spaces Project so much, it’s like a free zone for everybody to express their own space through photography - did you create it and how did you come up with this idea?

Caseysimone: Together Gong and I developed the idea for (the) happy spaces project after discussing what I wanted to investigate during my seven-week internship with him. I have always felt that spaces are integral to my contentment, but I was curious if that was the case for others. Answering this felt key to informing my work and education as a designer keen on creating a “happier” society.

AMS:     Tell us about how you started (the) Happy Spaces Project and its mission?

Caseysimone: The site launched on December 22, 2011 but was not advertised until the first week of January 2012. Submissions started coming in that week; users have submitted images from seven US states and 16 countries. The mission of the project is to create an opportunity for people to think critically about the spaces that make them happy and happiness in general, gather and compile information about the factors of space make people happy, gather information concerning people’s critical thinking about space and happiness and the relationship between the two, as well as serve as a resource to designers, architects, aesthetes, anyone interested in the development of spaces that foster happiness and well being.

AMS:     Did you and CAPA fellow Gong Szeto know each other prior to creating this project? Tell us how the two of you ended up launching it together?

Caseysimone: Yes, Gong was a guest professor of mine my freshman year, he taught a class about modern finance and banking titled, Hedge Fund. When seeking an internship this winter I approached him about interning for him – he said yes almost immediately but explained that unlike typical internships we would create a project together, one which we would collaborate, I wouldn’t simply go out and get him coffee or do his busy work. After many conversations about the kind of project we wanted to do we settled on (the) happy spaces project, a two-stepped project. The first step: setting up the blog and having it be a self-sustaining crowd sourced blog. The second step: doing an analysis on the information gathered from the blog, we will be entering this phase in the next week.  

AMS:     What is your vision for (the) Happy Spaces Project?

Caseysimone: Though Gong and I will begin the analysis this week in greater depth, the intention is for the blog to be self-sufficient during and after this time. By this I mean, submissions will continue coming in, other bloggers will continue to be interested and continue the story, and designers will find unique and powerful ways to use the site’s contents as a resource. Since I will go back to being a full time student in March my own daily posts on the “blog” part of the blog will most likely cease though I will continue to post submissions and manage comments, inquiries, etc. At this point there are still endless directions in which the project could go, one of which might be a book or subsequent project that follows up on certain questions raised by the project.

AMS:     You know I love writing and reading about being happy and being contented. How do you envision these two elements into your project?

Caseysimone: Essentially, the project is trying to draw focus to the ideas of happiness and contentment through space. The project encourages people to take time to think about and notice spaces that make them happy; through these acknowledgments hopefully people will have a better understanding of the kinds of situations that bring them the most happiness and contentment. For example, many people have submitted images and descriptions of their family dining table, perhaps family is a crucial factor in those people’s happiness; whereas others have submitted images of nature without other people, so perhaps solitude is an important factor in those people’s happiness.

AMS:     How important is having a happy space to you in relation to living a good life?

Caseysimone: This question, though seemingly simple is actually quite complex, for a “happy space” is different for different kinds of people. I hesitate to say that a “happy space” is different for everyone, for what I have been noticing through the submissions is that there are many commonalities in the kinds of spaces that make people happy. So, though I can not tell you that there is a space that could ever be built that would make everyone happy, I do think it is important that people feel like the spaces they work, play, and live in are ones that bring them happiness, contentment, and joy. I feel that it is the acknowledgment of what makes us happy in a space rather than the materiality of a space that translates into having a good life. By this I mean, appreciating what does work with pleasure and not just adding more stuff or thinking that someone else’s version of space is better arbitrarily will lead to a better life.

AMS:     What is your happy space? Would you describe it to us?

Caseysimone: Through this project I have been learning a lot about the spaces that make me happy, some aesthetic, others practical. I was raised by an American and a Dutchman and traveled to many places growing up but returned to few. As such, I have realized that I don’t have a “happy space” that is permanent, i.e. a room that I can always return to, but rather there are qualities that define spaces I feel comfortable, content, and happy in. They are spaces that are full of sunlight, that have delicate shadows, that have furniture that begs a sitter, that have character, that are full of design intention, and aren’t afraid of being lived in. I find that this is most often the case in bedrooms and living rooms, but I would love to see more of it in kitchens, dining rooms, and offices.

AMS:     Where do you think the happiest space on earth is, other than the Internet?

Caseysimone: Though I think that the Internet is an incredible platform for discussion and information it is not a physical space. As a digital space the Internet is my favorite, though I am not sure how much happiness it brings me. I don’t know where the happiest space on earth is, I don’t even know that I have a favorite space. I do know that many of my friends have spaces they love and call “their favorite spot on earth.”

AMS:  As a fellow blogger/writer would you share with us the most important skills/qualities one must have in order to stand out and become successful in this field?

Caseysimone: The only blogs I have maintained are ones with a very focused purpose. I think in terms of creating a following, or a readership, making sure that your blog’s aim is clear and that the posts speak to that aim in a focused way is key to a blog’s success. Very practically, I have found that finding as much analog content (books, interviews, photographs, conversations, drawings) as you can is important to maintaining an interesting and compelling blog – it also keeps your eyes away from a computer screen, which is incredibly important. Lastly, content that is clear and well-written is important to a blog’s success; blogs that have clear intentions but have meandering, un-focused posts make it difficult for a reader to derive the intended by the blogger. This is not to say that posts should be works of impeccable literature, they can be, but more importantly they should be clear and compelling to the purpose of the blog. I am still learning and applying these concepts myself and through every post have attempted to link the ideas of happiness and space more succinctly in a way that encourages readers to think about those ideas as well.

AMS:  Have you always been involved in photography and design?

Caseysimone: I have had a camera since I was 15, a Nikon D40, and have been designing buildings, objects, and systems since I can remember. I love taking images, but have never taken any courses in photography. I have, however, taken many classes in design, mostly in the form of studio architecture classes.

AMS:  Who or what inspired you to be who you are? Who are/were your motivators?

Caseysimone: My family certainly inspired me to take a continued interest in design, though I am not clear if it is not simply a part of my nature to be spatially aware. Both of my parents are incredibly spatial as well, my dad is a contractor and built our family home, my mom has always decorated with an incredible eye for detail, contrast, color, and form.  Seeing them choose the careers that made them happiest and develop their businesses in to successful ventures while growing up was certainly, and continues to be, a constant source of motivation. I have also been extremely motivated by my employers, for they have all given me a glimpse into the potential that lies ahead in the field.

AMS:  What are your next goals for yourself and for (the) Happy Spaces Project?

Caseysimone: Designing a space, not a hypothetical space, as is often the case in architecture studios, but a space that comes to fruition. I hope for the  (the) happy spaces project to continue to receive submissions and inspire more people to think about how space might be a part of happiness, especially designers, architects, and planners who often think of efficiency, elegance, aesthetic value, and intrigue but rarely throw around the concept of happiness.

AMS:  Finally, what is your definition of success?

Caseysimone: I think success, like happiness, is often a fleeting sensation, but that through the acknowledgement of our success, big and small, we can derive satisfaction and contentment from our success and I feel that is the most important result of success. Success that brings unhappiness or discontent is no success at all.

To read other inspiring Success Stories, click here.

How to Create a Healthy Balance in Your Life

Photo of Shem-shem Pablo

By Liz Scala

Today, I would like you to look  at how we create balance. 

What are some steps I might tell someone to take in order to achieve more balance in their lives?  What do I recommend that you might do in order to balance healthy living in your favor?  To me, this is really what it is all about; this is why I am passionate about coaching.  This is why I do what I do.  As a coach I want to be the person that people come to when they are ready to ready to tip the scales in their favor; to create healthy balance and see themselves as their number one priority!…

Here are several steps to creating healthy balance in your life:

Take stock of where you are presently at:

I use a tool that I created based off of many tools of its nature.  The tool is a wheel of balance.  There are many of these out there, but I have added in more “cogs”, so to speak, then in any of the other models I have seen.  Using this tool, a person is able to evaluate where they are focusing time and energy.  One can look at the wheel and figure out which areas are getting tended to and which areas are lacking attention.  For example, I might look at my wheel and see that I am spending a lot of time on physical movement and that part of my lifestyle is very healthy, but that I am in a ton of debt and creditors are chasing me down, hence making that part of my life unhealthy.  This tool helps you become aware of where your life is in and out of balance.  It is simple to use and the visualization of it puts things nicely into perspective. 

Be honest with yourself:

 Now that you have used the balance tool to see which areas you are paying more or less attention to you must be really honest with your thoughts, feelings, and actions in these areas.  Do you want to spend more time in certain areas than others?  If so, why?  What fears or discomforts are you avoiding?  Are these fears really even rationale or are they unfounded, based on assumptions and worries?  If you are able to give more balanced attention to certain areas which are lacking, how and when do you want to start?  What excites you about working with some areas you may not have done as easily in the past?  So be honest with what your intentions are and if you are able to spend time balancing out your lifestyle.

Start where your energy takes you:

So you may look at your balance wheel and find there are several areas that could use more attention.  Realistically you are not going to start working in all of the areas at once; we just don’t have time for that in our busy lives!  So where are you being pulled?  What are you feeling like working on first?  Notice where your energy is taking you and begin with those areas first.  It will be easier and more fun to improve the balance to those aspects of your well-being you are drawn to.

Create a plan and get organized:

You are going to want to start paying more attention to new realms of your well-being and to do so isn’t going to magically happen.  You will need to schedule time in for new things, otherwise they will not get done.  So if you noticed that your nutrition was lacking on your wheel and that was something you were excited about improving upon, you will have to schedule this in to your day-to-day planner.  This is going to be something new that you are introducing into your lifestyle so it might take some getting used to.  Change does not occur overnight.

Reach out for support:

Do not go this alone.  Making changes in our lives is never easy.  Rather than struggling and failing why not ask loved ones, colleagues, or even professionals for help?  It will make changing a behavior that much easier and it will bring your whole being into better balance.

All things in moderation: 

So you might have been going all at it at the gym, but you keep getting passed up for promotions at work.  Maybe you haven’t given much time and energy to your educational piece of your life and that is something you wish you had more time for.  Well, if you are at the gym for two hours everyday after work you may not have time to get more coursework in.  So you might have to cut back on gym time in order to take a workshop or a college course.  All things should be done in moderation, lest we are unbalanced and one-sided.

Have fun: 

If balancing your life starts to feel like work, then stop worrying about it.  You are doing this to be healthy and whole, not to add more “chore-like” behaviors to your plate.  Find fun in new experiences.  Have a good time trying out other areas of well-being.  Do things with gratitude, courage, and joy.  Know that in the grand scheme of things if you are more balanced and well-rounded, the more healthy you will be.  But do this when ready, willing, and able.  Do not force it.  Have a good time with it!

…So these are my thoughts on building balance in your life.  I will reflect more on these steps to see if anything else comes up.  I would welcome more ideas on this topic if anyone has followed any steps in creating balance in their lives…

What do you do to create healthy balance?  Have you any process that has worked time and time again? 

The Three “-ations”

Photo of Randy Legaspi

By Ronald Colunga

There are three things that everyone should apply to their lives. The three “-ations” as i call them. The Ations are three certain things that can help anyone in their lives, and anyone can apply it to their lives. The first being Inspiration, second is Motivation, third is Education.

Inspiration

Inspiration is the process of being mentally stimulated to do or feel something. We have all seen inspirational videos that registers in our mind, and makes us do things out of the ordinary. People are one of the main causes of inspiration, lets talk about an individual by the name of Nick Vujacic. Nick has no limbs, and he is one of the most inspirational people in the world. Nick shows us that life is hard, but when you stop trying is when you have failed. When you are down in life and you are trying to get up, if you try 100 times, 1000 times, or 10,000 times to get up and you fail every time, if you give up will you ever get up? No, you will not get up! But if you keep trying you will get up! Please watch this video of Nick and let him inspire you. NEVER GIVE UP!

 (Around 1:25 is where the speech comes in.)

Motivation

Motivation is the reason or reasons one has for acting or behaving in a particular way. Motivation and Inspiration correlate with each other as you could tell. Lets talk about motivating other people. Think back to the Will’s, Wont’s, and Cant’s (See will’s, wont’s, and cant’s post) telling someone they can’t do it, is demotivating an individual, telling them they won’t do it is opposing a individual, but telling someone they will do it is motivating in itself.  Think about it, if a person keeps telling another person they will do something, they can do something, that certain individual will start to believe it himself and he will never give up. That is motivation! Now how do you motivate yourself? Easy! Tell YOURSELF you will do it. Tell yourself you can achieve what you want in life, and you will achieve it. There is no one to stop to you but yourself!

Education

Education is the process of receiving or giving systematic instruction. Look at the two key words in that definition “Receiving” and “Giving.” Lets look at giving first, giving education is just as important as receiving education. Now I’m not telling you to go out there and tell everybody they are wrong and that you are right. What i am saying, is if you see someone struggling with something in their lives help them out. Educate them, send them videos to look at. Give them a book to read! If they ask you for advice to tell them to “google” it, help them find the answer. There is plenty of ways to educate someone, now lets take the initiative and do it!

On to the “Receiving” portion of education. Throughout your life people will help you, they will guide you and give there opinions on the right choices to make. I cannot stress this enough always, always, always, always, listen to what people have to say. It WILL help you in life. Listen to their opinions, listen to their struggles and learn from their mistakes not just your own.

Lets end this post off with a quick lesson on educating yourself. How? READ READ READ! Read a book! Books have all the information that you need! All you have to do is get a book and read it. Also watch videos on a little something you are trying to learn. A quick 5 minute video can educate you for a lifetime. What I like to do is Read a book and watch a video in the morning, as well as at night. Like a said, just a few pages of reading and a short video twice a day will change your life. Never stop educating yourself, there is always something new to learn.

The video for the day!

How to Spend a Day?

Photo of Absterrabi

By Alpha

How would you spend a day?

If I asked you that question, would you have an answer for me - right away?

While you were reading the above photo that contains words and things that one can do with a day, would you do the same? How would you create your day? How would you like to spend your day? What would your list look like?

Would you have 13 things as well? Or maybe more?

Remember everyday is your day; your special present. You are given this moment to do things as you please. You are given the strength and the mind to make things happen for you. It is all up to you – including how you spend a day.

Last week I talked about some of the things you can do in 24 hours and I have shared with you one of my favorite days over the summer and how I spent it with my family. If I were to have that day again, I would certainly play reruns of it more than I can count with my fingers and toes.