Saturday Success Story TWO: MARICAR PRIMERO TANGONAN

Our second installment of SATURDAY SUCCESS STORY features one of New York City’s very active and sought after professional in the field of healthcare staffing, business development and marketing. Her Bachelor’s degree in English Studies at the University of the Philippines-Diliman and Master’s degree in Language Teaching from the Polytechnic University of the Philippines, surprisingly made her custom-fit for a marketing and business career in USA.  Although relatively new in the healthcare industry  – just 5 years as compared to her full 7 years as an educator in a state college in the Philippines – she has brought a start-up health staffing company to its highest revenue mark, expanded its menu of services and employee-base, designed and streamlined HR procedures, built effective cost-cutting measures and brought cultural sensitivity to account management. Her success lies in her ability to shift careers so swiftly and effectively. She quickly learned multidisciplinary fields on the job and boldly put these ideas to the test, in the most cut-throat city in America.

To this date, our SATURDAY SUCCESS STORY, if not working her day job, pursues her numerous passion in the City that offers all.  Her interests are cultural studies, history, linguistics, literature, humanities, philosophy, practical and culinary arts that are all found and celebrated in New York City. Because of this, she has come to love NYC as much as she loves her home— the town of Camiling in the Philippines.

She actively leads and participates in numerous non-profit and religious events in and around New York City. She volunteers time in building and helping programs that benefit and cater to the underprivileged and minority Filipinos. Just recently, she launched a new website called, Ilocano York, where she combines her patriotism with her love for New York, culture and food. With this website, she aims to promote Ilocano heritage and cultural legacy in Filipino communities around the world.

Here is MS. MARICAR TANGONAN, a dreamer, a doer and an optimist migrant who continues to seize opportunities as they come.

Read and learn about why she is successful (even though she humbly says, she is not yet!) – and please don’t forget to share her story to people that you care about.

1. Tell us about yourself.

I am someone who will live with a bomb on my head as long as it takes me where I should be.

2. What brought you to where you are now?

It’s in my willingness to test new waters and put myself to the test that brought me all that I am enjoying or willingly suffering now. It all starts with acceptance and a realization of the now. Once I get that figured out I can pretty well map out what to do next until I reach my goal.

3. Did you have a mentor or a teacher or somebody in your family who has given you some words of wisdom? Can you tell us about this person and how he/she impacted you?

There are so many. A lot are obviously the people around me: young, old, stranger, close friends, my professors in the university.  The books I voraciously read: the authors, the undying characters they created and both classical and modern thinkers that have shaped much of the intellectual landscape. I derive lessons from things that may seem inane to others but to me stand as metaphors for something bigger. On a daily basis I learn from my experiences. Every smile, laughter, tear, and pain teaches me a lesson or two about life. All these things I try to synthesize and make them applicable and relevant guides to every situation in life that I go through.

But if pressed for a name, the most recent is my Aunt, Odelia Tablit. She taught me New York life skills that helped in re-establishing myself in a different land. But I guess, when we speak about core qualities, it’s my Mom, (Benilda de Mata) Primero who has direct influence on who I am now. Also, I give much credit to my Pang Ben (Benjamin de Mata), my maternal grandfather who inspired me to become an educator early on in my career. This has been ingrained so much in my personality that even when I shifted industries I still carry traits and qualities of a teacher that I always find useful in my transactions.

4. When you were trying to achieve where you are right now, did you experience some disappointments and failures? What are they? Can you explain how you overcome these circumstances?

I am still in the process of building my life. The moment I think I have done it is the time I stop growing and achieving more. It is a continuous struggle towards a path of self-renewal and contentment.

The most difficult is being away from people I love while I build a new life in a foreign land. I was lonely and restless for some time, but realized I had to make the period of separation worth its while. I did turn my cards and looking back, I think I have done so much more in my five years abroad compared to my accomplishments when I was nestled in the comforts of family and home.

5. What would be your next goal? 

To be able to pass this same verve to my sons and other people who are willing to lose in order to win. I would want to inspire people into converting their fears and failures into something beneficial. I know that is easier said than done, but someone has to keep on reminding people that it is possible.
6. Has anyone of your friends, relatives ever told you what qualities they admire about you? What are they? 

My determination and courage.


7. Can you share to us your philosophy in life and how this affected your success.

I’m a fatalist-determinist, in a sense that although I know God has set me for something in this life, I have complete control over how I fare and survive all the struggles that come my way. I make use of every gift I was given and work hard in further improving it.
8. Do you have any advice to get better and be more successful in whatever you are doing?

Seize opportunities as they come. Enjoy whatever it is that you are doing in life, may it be your job or a given task. Find something in it that would make you smile.
9. Finally, what is your definition of success.

Success is about having the courage to go after what one thinks is best for herself.  The number one criterion is a gradual and continual growth. It doesn’t matter how one measures up with others for as long she works towards her goals, then that’s success. Only after I realized this didI truly help the people I love and care for.  It’s an inner victory that goes outward towards the benefit of other people.

Daily with you,

- Alpha

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Day 59: Sit still

Photo: F. Claflin

Model:  C. Claflin (Mom Fashion World)

 

Be calm. Sit still. Don’t move. Don’t move.

Sit still.

There. Nope.Nope. Not yet.

Get it to the right. A little more. There. Almost.

Keep your legs crossed. Let your arms flow freely.

Straighten your back. Keep it upright.

Hold your neck. Then. Let your thumbs press against your pointer fingers.

Breathe. Exhale. Breathe again. Exhale.

Relax. Feel every nerve in your body relax. Sit still. Remain quiet.

Sit still. Don’t move. Don’t move.

Be calm.

There!!!

>>>

Now, please hit play on this video  “Dare to Dream” by new-age artist Yanni:

Daily with you,

- Alpha

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Day 58: Clutter

Photo: Michaela Cruz-Ungos (Teacher Mica)

I’d like to honestly say that I am not the most organized  (check out the trunk of my car!) nor the most-clutter free person on this side of the planet, but I am trying to.

In Eastern Philosophy, clutter is a form of energy. While some people may disagree with that concept, it is imperative in the Eastern practice that anything that is broken, unused for at least a decade and dusty, must be cleaned out and/or fixed. To the Eastern practitioners, an object that is broken is taking some of our energy away and can cause stress. A space free of clutter is calming and more. It is also more inviting for the people who dwell in that space/home to welcome positive chi (enery) to flow throughout the given space. When positive chi flows freely, it attracts more blessings. With lesser clutter, life is simpler.

Few months ago, I became a fan of Leo Babauta’s guide to Minimalism and Clutter-Free Home and Philosophy. I have tried to apply some of his recommendations and would like to share them with you.

These recommendations have tremendously helped me while cleaning out our place before putting it on the market. Without a cleaning helper or a maid that will come every week to do a thorough clean-up, I have to re-learn how to put things away to give a deceptive look that our place is thoroughly clean every time. Although, six months later our place is still up for sale, I continue to keep our place as tidy as I can whenever possible.

Below are some of the tips I have come to use:

1. Start with one small area of your house. I would recommend starting with a table in your room. If it is a dining table, make sure that it is used as a dining table, not a place for your unopened junk mails or keys. Once you identify what is the purpose of that table, clear it off and throw out all the papers or objects that are not going to be in directly useful for the purpose of that table.

If you decided to conquer your closet first, fine (Leo Babauta cleaned out his closet last because he felt overwhelmed to do so). Take out all the clothes that you haven’t worn in the past two years. Then, take out all the clothes that do not fit you anymore. Next, go through them again – and decide whether you are really going to use them.

What I did with mine was to put some of the clothes that did not fit me anymore in a balikbayan (care package) box and sent them back home. That worked out perfectly because that made me feel like helping some people back home by using some of my favorite clothes before.

2. Check your medicine cabinet and  clean it out – Many of us have prescriptions that are unfinished and have already expired, but they are still occupying some space in the Rx cabinet. When I was cleaning our medicine cabinets (yes, we have three) – I discovered prescriptions dating back in 2007! What I did was to completely eliminate all of the half-used bottles and threw them directly in the trash. I know there are some non-profit organizations that would take your unused prescriptions if you call them.

3. Bookshelves – I love books – they are my second nature. In fact, one day while I was given the opportunity to go to a house filled with books (read: his living room, dining room and one bedroom are all filled with books), I could not help but drop my jaws in astonishment! When my friend (who also brought me there) and is in the landscaping business saw my reaction the moment I saw those books, he said that it was like seeing himself go to Lowe’s or Homedepot – where he couldn’t make up his mind which way to go first. So, long story short- I am deeply in love with books, thus our basement is almost filled with books.

So, when it was time to go through these books, I cowered.

One of the reasons why I had a hard time letting go of these books- even though half of them were purchased through yard sales and estate sales with coffe stains and musty smell, was because deep inside I want to be a “show off”. I want to show to Tala the books I’ve read and how many of them have consumed my time on weekends or worknights. But, I know I was attached to them.

I had a hard time letting go of them – just like leaving a good best friend behind.

But, finally – I made the decision that if I will hang on to these books, I will never be able to make room for more. That was what made me donate these books to the Good Will store – the idea that: if I want to read more books, I have to let go of some of them.

4. Try to clean out your trunk and your car – Like I said in my beginning paragraph, my car is not the most organized place. It is also not an SUV, so I am limited with the space it can hold my clutter. I am glad that the trunk is wide enough to accommodate all of my mess. Actually, my car used to be the dumping site of all things I do not want to carry inside the house such as school projects, books (again!), graded essays from a previous course I took a year ago, extra clothes, towels – and all things related to having a very active preschooler! Not only that, my car used to be the second house of all things ugly.

That was before Leo Babauta influenced my way of thinking about clutter and living lightly.

Now, my trunk is in a much better condition. I cleaned out all of my books (donated some of them to the Salvation Army), shredded all the paperwork and projects I no longer needed and made room for our weekly grocery.

Today, I can say that I use my trunk to dry off Tala’s swimming gears and wet towels, as well as snow brush and scraper. My weekly grocery shopping bags can now easily fit there, with some room allotted for Tala’s stroller.

5. Lastly, enjoy your peaceful and satisfying space. - Once you learn how to do these recommendations, maintain it. Or go back to square one, all over again!

Daily with you,

- Alpha

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Day 57: I have a three-letter word for you!

Photo: Michaela Cruz-Ungos (Teacher Mica)

The next time somebody asks you if you can help him water his garden while he is out of town for two days…

The next time somebody wants to borrow money from you…

The next time your friend asks you to babysit for her daughter…

The next time your co worker invites you to sign up for LinkedIn…

The next time your son asks you to wrestle with him in the living room…

The next time your boss wants you to complete a second project…

The next time your sister slips on your favorite summer dress…

The next time your husband calls you to bed…

The next time you see your nail polish chipping away…

The next time you see a hungry homeless waving for a penny or two…

SAY

 Y-E-S.

I will do it!*

 *I have a personal anecdote with the “I will do it, Ma’am!” When I was in high school, I loved and oh-so-loved to impress my teachers. I wanted them to know that I was capable of doing things for them to make me earn extra credit and also trust on me. So, one day one of our teachers asked if we can do something for them (frankly, I can not remember what was the task) but I immediately rasied my hand and said in a very loud and confident voice, “I will do it, Ma’am!”  Ask one of my former classmates, Fatima Maglalang-Bernal – she does a pretty good job impersonating me on this particular scenario! She can probably even tell you what was the task was about.

Daily with you,

- Alpha

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Day 56: 10 Sounds, Instead

Photo: Michaela Cruz-Ungos (Teacher Mica)

Drop the artificial music in your ears right now.

Drop the unnecessary noise in your background.

Drop your constant eavesdropping from your neighbor’s conversation.

Instead…

 

try to:

1. listen to the rustling leaves

2. listen to croaking frogs in the pond

3. listen to the waves as they splash against the sandy shore

4. listen to what the crickets are singing

5. listen to the coos of the morning doves

6. listen as the rain splatters on the ground

7. listen to the gusty winds blowing against your face

8. listen to the bubbles forming nearby the brook

9. listen to the roar of the thunders

10. listen to your own heart

 Just listen.

Listen very well.

Listen intently to the world around you.

Listen to all of the natural sounds, surrounding you.

They give you the reassurance that you are indeed alive and kicking!

Life is beautiful!

Daily with you,

- Alpha

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