Strive to be Gentle

Photo of Ria G. Rombaoa

By Buena Laoang

 

Last night, the mother in me cried.
My youngest was having a hard cough, and crying in bed, I was trying to pacify her. My eldest, who saw the pillow her sister was using, pulled the pillow away, declaring “That’s mine!”
I cried, more than my youngest. Something inside me was hit by my eldest’s behavior at that moment. Scolding her in between tears, I was brought to make her see how blessed she is that when she was younger and still an only child, she’d been pampered and has been taken care of every minute. Why is she being harsh to her youngest sibling, who had to deal with divided attention and actually has been her and little brother’s “eager,  always present servant”?
Then today, I thought of people- like bosses in the workplace, or wives like me, or friends who think twice at returning calls or favors. Has anyone also observed somebody who is harsh other than how he or she should act? Like the boss who complains about unfinished assigned tasks- how much portion of his salary was because of simply assigning the work to other people? Or the wife (me not exempted!) who gets mad about the absence of her husband for a while, and does not ponder how long he had been there working for and supporting the family? That friend who shows pouted lips when asked a favor- while too many times she had run to you for something…

 

Why the harsh behavior? Why the selfishness? Don’t we see all the blessings that surround us?

Have we forgotten to appreciate? Especially these people, who serve us.. who make our lives lighter and more bearable for us. We neglect to see that truth.
You see, it’s natural when we were children. But now we are grown-ups, we should clearly see the difference, and strive to be gentler.

 

Arrogance

 

Photo from Ninjakimal

 

 

By Buena Laoang

 

 

Let us talk about something today, that may affect in getting our new year’s resolutions ready, or at least our plans for a new us.

 

Maybe at one point in life, we have been (or present tense, ARE) attacked by it:

 

 

 

A s if we are right, and the other person is wrong

 

R anting,

 

R ecounting

 

O ver and over again, things that make us seem

 

G reat, a good judge, over anything under the sun.

 

A n attitude of the mind, of the heart, i am most bothered about

 

N ot a very cool thing, for any age, I should say.

 

C an we change it? (you are undecided.because sometimes arrogance make us feel good. but in a bad light.)

 

E nd someone like more and truly beautiful today. End arrogance.

 

Arrogance is bitter. Better be sweeter.

 

 

 


Who has a Pure Heart?

Photo of Ria G. Rombaoa

By Buena Laoang

 

Few people find time to read. Few reflect and very few want to think over matters that do not directly affect their physical and material well-being.

 

Many times we become too consumed with the things before us, that we neglect to see behind these things, we neglect to evaluate their probable impact to us, or to other people.

 

Like the mom who rushed to office-because she needed to be on time at work; she did not see the the pathetic effect of it on her child, how the little one would have felt..how the baby carer would find it very hard to pacify the child…

 

Before saying it, think about it. Before acting it, first reason on it. In everything be conscious and use the godly intellect that heaven has bestowed us. That will lessen apologies, that will avoid troubles and make things right.

 

Only a heart that is pure can be able to go and do, without too many considerations. Because it knows about what it carries.

 

The mom who goes to office, if she will kindle purity of heart, would know that she has to wake up much too early, to be able to leave ample hugs and kisses to her child, an assurance that she will be back and the motherly love stays, even in the while she is a distance away.

 

But when we become too busy, we neglect on these things.

 

We have to strive cultivating a pure heart. “A pure heart, that’s what I long for,” as a Christian song says… “A heart that follows hard after Thee.”

 

Who has a pure heart? The heart that is open to speak to God at night and tell everything. The heart that seeks only to glorify God and forget about itself and is ready to tell truth anytime. The heart that if it has to admit overlooked faults or misgivings, will be very ready to say “I am sorry Lord… please help me up.. purify my heart.”

 

(Yes, Lord…I love you for this second discourse. Purify the intention to share the wisdom that comes from having a personal relationship with you. Amen.)

 

About the Author: Buenaflor Laoang-Rosete finished Creative Writing from the University of the Philippines Diliman, and an awardee of the National Commission for Culture and the Arts Philippines in 2001. She is a mother, public servant, teacher. Her Lifenotes tell of a “once-a-wretch-now-fully-blest” life story, inspiring the advocacy of living simply, fragrantly and richly. She is a Filipino and is happy to be one.

ISSUES

f taken arrogantly, would only give you

S tress,

S tress, and

U nwanted feelings.

E xhale. Breathe some more. Take the matters- calmly, prayerfully, one at a time.

S mile. :) :) Shine, instead of suffer!

 

A gentle reminder to the self, “This, too, shall pass.”

 

About the Author: Buenaflor Laoang-Rosete finished Creative Writing from the University of the Philippines Diliman, and an awardee of the National Commission for Culture and the Arts Philippines in 2001. She is a mother, public servant, teacher. Her Lifenotes tell of a “once-a-wretch-now-fully-blest” life story, inspiring the advocacy of living simply, fragrantly and richly. She is a Filipino and is happy to be one.

Be Still

Today, be still.
Because Each Sweet Try In Life Lingers…
Believe that Everything
Shall Turn Into a Lovely Lifenote
Bless and Empower.
Speak Thy Incomparable Love to the Living.
Be still!
About the Author: Buenaflor Laoang-Rosete finished Creative Writing from the University of the Philippines Diliman, and an awardee of the National Commission for Culture and the Arts Philippines in 2001. She is a mother, public servant, teacher. Her Lifenotes tell of a “once-a-wretch-now-fully-blest” life story, inspiring the advocacy of living simply, fragrantly and richly. She is a Filipino and is happy to be one.