Let Go of Any Jealousy

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By Stuart Young

 

Take the opportunity today to let go of any jealousy you are feeling.

 

The Letting Go process is so powerful I thought I’d continue with it a while longer. The more you use it the easier it becomes and the more likely you are to experience a breakthrough. When you can get to the point of allowing a negative emotion to dissipate until it is no longer discernable you have successfully let go of it. That’s not to say continual practise is not necessary - it is! The more you do it the better you’ll become and before you know it life will just seem easier, more joyful and relaxing.

 

Try it now with jealousy. I used to find it difficult to tell the difference between jealousy and envy until I used a technique that gave me clarity. Envy, to me, means wanting the same as someone else, whereas jealousy means wishing to deprive someone of what they have so you can have it instead. See if you have any feelings of jealousy – and if you do, let them go.

 

Take care! Merry Christmas to all!

Visit an Awe Inspiring Building

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By Stuart Young

 

Take the opportunity today to visit an awe inspiring building.

 

Whenever I go on holiday, anywhere, I’m always looking for interesting buildings to admire. I find it hard to walk past a beautiful church without going inside for a look around. There’s a reason why religions put so much time, money and effort into creating fantastic architecture – it inspires us!

 

It never ceases to amaze me that hundreds of years ago builders were able not only to design such incredible structures, but were also able to build them. No cranes, no theodolites, no hightech machinery. Just craftsmanship and engineering prowess.

 

If you want to feel inspired there is no quicker way in my book than to experience something awesome in nature – and remember, we are in nature every bit as much as the great redwoods or termite mounds. Be inspired by what your fellow man has created and realise that you have the seed for that genius inside you, just waiting to manifest in your special way.

 

Enjoy!

Let go of any negativity you are feeling

 

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By Stuart Young

December is always a busy month leading up to the Christmas holidays.

For some it’s a time of dread as they are thrown together with family members

that they would rather not be.

I would like to go over Hale Dwoskin’s Sedona Method once again in an attempt to

help us all ‘Let Go’ of any negative feelings. These are the 4 questions of the method:

 

1. ‘Can I allow and welcome my [anger/shame/resentment etc.] to be here?’ then ask:

2. ‘Can I release or let go of this [anger etc.]?

 

In the first two questions you are searching for permission to feel that emotion. Anger for instance, can be helpful. However, if you drill down into that feeling you might find that your anger makes you feel protected, strong or right about something. Delve into those feelings. Do they serve you? Maybe yes, maybe no. Either way, feelings are natural and should not be suppressed.

 

Now you’ve got a hold of that emotion and are experiencing it in a controlled way, you can move on to examining the next questions:

 

3. ‘Would I let it go?’ then,

4. ‘When?’

 

Following on from that Letting Go theme I thought I’d explore some other less identifiable emotions. When you are feeling inadequate for example, it can often manifest as anger or shame or of being victimised. Be sure as you apply this process that you delve into the why of your feelings. More often than not a different emotion lurks beneath the surface of another.

 

Take care!

Write Your Relationship Goals

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By Stuart Young

 

Take the opportunity today to write out your relationship goals.

 

This could be a difficult one for many people. Identifying what we want our relationships to be like takes some serious thought. If we’re not careful we’ll end up with a wish list that is impossible to fulfill. We run the risk of wishing for relationships where we are always superior, are always in the right, have full control and are basically treated like royalty. And why shouldn’t we? (Joking!)

 

Seriously, we all realize that relationships of any kind take a lot of time, commitment and work. All of which we could well do without sometimes but on retrospect appreciate as prerequisite for something deep and meaningful.

 

So, as you compose your goals list, be careful what you wish for.

 

About the Author: Stuart Young writes his thoughts on his blog How To Change Your Life One Day At A Time. He  launched his book on this topic in May 2012 and has since helped people change their lives. Click here to get your copy now! He is also one of the authors of the book, “The Best Inspirational Storie I Ever Read: Guide to a Purposeful Life”.

 

Stop Trying to Help where it’s not Wanted

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By Stuart Young

 

Take the opportunity today to Stop trying to help where it’s not wanted.

 

Sometimes people aren’t ready to be helped and you’ll only frustrate yourself. We’ve all been there, trying to offer the right advice at the right time except it’s being rejected.

 

You can see what’s going on, it’s obvious what needs to happen, you explain it clearly but your advice falls on deaf ears. Why is that?

 

Because the person you are trying to help is not ready to be helped. And you know what? We’ve all been in that place ourselves. If you really thought about it, you’d remember a time when you weren’t ready for someone’s help even though you knew it was the right thing. It may have been when you were a child and you were trying to ride your bike – you didn’t want your dad holding you in case you fell, you wanted to do it on your own.

 

Although this is frustrating to the helper, sometimes it’s exactly what’s required as sometimes people have to just figure it out for themselves.

 

So, offer help but accept when it’s not heeded.

 

About the Author: Stuart Young writes his thoughts on his blog How To Change Your Life One Day At A Time. He  launched his book on this topic in May 2012 and has since helped people change their lives. Click here to get your copy now! He is also one of the authors of the book, “The Best Inspirational Storie I Ever Read: Guide to a Purposeful Life”.