Quotes: On Minimalism

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By Alpha (Day 105)

I am not sure whether I have confessed my addiction to reading Leo Babauta’s site on Zen Living. If not, now you know. Everytime I get a chance to sit down and read something – whether during my lunch break or when everybody is asleep I log on to Leo’s site and take in whatever I can from his site. Recently, I had the opportunity to read a whole bunch of his posts and I would like to share with you the most powerful sentences from him on minimalism.

I did challenge myself on one particular aspect on minimalism and I will share it with you my progress on that soon. This is a 30-day challenge on using cash only in all my purchases – be it big or small spending. I think this is a right way for me to apply the one of the concepts of minimalism towards my personal finances.

Here are the quotes I truly enjoyed during my reading:

“We are influenced by our environment, but we also create our environment, and we always have a choice.”

“Wait until you’ve changed yourself before you change your clothes and gear.”

“And when you do notice yourself wanting something (awareness is everything), pause. Pause some more. Put it on a 30-day list. Wait. The desires go away with time.”

“There are people who claim never to want stuff anymore, who just don’t care about cool clothes and gadgets and bags and notebooks, who have moved past desiring things. Those people are lying.”

“We don’t need to play. Let’s live instead: everything essential is nearly free anyway.”

“When we start out with something, we usually will try everything. But as we learn, we can pare down ideas that we find out don’t matter. We’re left with the essentials.”

“A minimalist is simply one who questions the necessity of things, and who tries to live with what’s necessary, rather than with consumerism.”

“What is blogging at its best? This sign distilled blogging to its essence: regular updates that inspire others from someone doing something remarkable. If you’re thinking of (or are already) blogging, don’t be intimidated. All you need is to do something remarkable, and let people know about it.”

“When we wear things with the logos and slogans of the companies whose products we use (Apple, Nike, Prada, Gucci), we are doing their advertising for them. We are walking billboards.”

“There are no prerequisites for minimalism. Do it however you want, however you can, wherever you want.”

“Cut back to a few important tasks and your work will be transformed. Do only a few things in life and those things will breathe and take on an importance they never had before.”

“Why do we keep things even if we don’t need or use them? Because we’re afraid we might.”

“Life includes: taking long walks, creating things, having conversations with friends, snuggling with my wife, playing with my kids, eating simple food, going outside and getting active.”

“The most important thing is asking what’s the most important thing.”

13 Ways to Keep a Friend

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By Alpha (Day 102)

If you have one good friend, you are one of the few lucky persons in the world, who is optimistic that when things get wrong, there is always a shoulder to lean on. People who have friends whom they trust and depend are more likely to live happier. They are also able to have a better sense of their place in the universe in other words, a sense of belongingness. Studies show that people who have strong friendships not only experience happiness but they are more likely to enjoy life, have stronger immune system, have better self-esteem and are less likely to suffer from depression.

Do you have at least one friend whom you know you can call in the middle of the night if ever you are on a tough situation?

If you do, you are in good shape! If you don’t – this may help you.

After reading many articles on friendships and relationships, here are some of the most important ways to keep a friend, and how to make your friendship last longer.

  1. Praise and compliment whenever necessary – Sometimes that is the best remedy for a bad hair day! So, go ahead shower your friend with lots of praises, but only if you mean very well.
  2. Listen and then listen again – oftentimes just being there is the best moral support you can give.
  3. Go out and have fun – life is too short not to do things together. Leave your children for a few hours and just spend some time with your friends. It can save your sanity and make you feel your age again. Do something fun – for girls/boys only!
  4. Forgive each other – when you did something wrong, let go and be willing to ask for an apology. If your friend asks for an apology, accept it and then forgive each other. Learn the lesson and then move on.
  5. Keep your promises and build trust – nothing is more discouraging if an individual cannot be dependable. If you said something, follow through. Be trustworthy and true to your words.
  6. Give your opinion when asked and let them decide – it is great to give your opinions – but only if it is asked. If your friend needs a rude awakening, tell the truth and if she/he takes it, thank yourself – if not, don’t worry – it is not a big deal!
  7. Show them you care – it doesn’t matter whether you offer to babysit or to cook their favorite food – whatever it is, show that you care.
  8. Accept who they are – your interests, lifestyle and opinions can be different and varied, but accept them. People are born to be unique.
  9. Share your life – Share your dreams, your future, your problems and who you really are. It’s through sharing that friendships grow.
  10. Laugh together – laughing is always the best medicine. It can take away many wrinkles!
  11. Stay in touch – whether you are extremely busy with your family and work, take time to say hi or hello once in a while. Keep abreast with the happenings in each other’s lives. Let them know that you are still alive and kicking!
  12. Thank each other – for the friendship, the time and for knowing each other!
  13. Don’t spill any secrets – once this is broken,  you’ll likely have to start all over again. But it is okay, life is meant to be a learning curve.

Enjoy your friendship! Cheers!

Are people really busy?

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By Alpha (Day 101)

 

 

“I know you are busy – but do you have a minute?”

“I’m sorry if I am taking your time right now, I know you are very busy.”

“I understand how busy you are and I appreciate your time with me.”

“I’m sorry, I’ve been busy at work, I haven’t had the chance to call you back.”

“I don’t have enough time to even get a manicure I am so busy!”

“You guys are busy, so I don’t bother to give you a call thoughout the weekdays.”

“She has so many afterschool commitments that she can not find time to . What a busy life!”

Do these lines sound very familiar to you?

I bet they are!

You hear it all the time – from family members, friends, neighbors, workmates, fellow grocery shoppers, mom groups and from other organizations you decide to associate yourself. It is not uncommon to hear these excuses anymore rather they are household phrases.

I for one, do it too  - and I am guilty about it.

I understand that people are busy (that includes me!) but I also believe that if you make time for something that you believe is important, then being busy is out of the picture.

That’s why – as I was wrapping my workday last week I finally started a revolution to myself.  The minute I anticipated such lines,  I started to say to people within my circle, “Please, be my guest!” instead of “No, I am not busy at all!”

I also realized that a lot of people just assume that their friend or their boss is so busy because of the nature of their work, their family structure and the activities they choose to engage in – but in reality, we know that there is still some room to squeeze in some time to do leisure and play time within their schedule, be it tight or not. Look how many times you see people update their twitter account or any of their social networking profiles on what they are up to, then you say they are busy? ‘Course not!

Finally, some thoughts about being busy: When people claim they are too busy they can’t even pick up the phone to say “hi” or “hello”, I think there are only two reasons:

a. they are either choosing not to prioritize it

OR

b. they just forget about it (when they remember you, they will call)

I know, I fall in one of those categories sometimes – and again, I am guilty of it!