The Flame Inside

If they cut my bald head open, they will find one big boxing glove.  That’s all I am.  I live it. – Marvin Hagler


By Kenton Sefcik

“Look at this guy.  He’s not even sweating,” he said.  Hugh was at the boxing club along with Jamie.  Hugh had boxed in his youth and told me he wasn’t getting any younger or slimmer so he’d decided to take it up again.


He kept making these comments to me in passing about my fitness level and how he needed the rest while clearly I didn’t.  Thing is – he didn’t know what was going through my head at the time: boxing is cheaper than therapy.


That day at the club was one of the worst days I’ve had in a long time.  I woke up to an empty gas tank in the car, left the house once only to turn around and bring the garbage out, and then a second time to raid the gas stash for the lawn mower once the gas light on the car came on (the small town gas station was still closed that early in the morning).


Got to work 15 minutes late and when you are the one who is supposed to be opening the place up and greeting a new patient, it’s not a good feeling.  I’m never late.

My stressful start sent the tone for the rest of the day.  I was 15 minutes late for every patient – even when I came back from the gym.  I was supposed to meet up with someone after work and I gave myself ample time to get there – again 15 minutes late.

I’ve had a lot on my mind lately and it’s been stressing me out.  It’s just like pain, and boxing (read: exercise) helps channel that pain into a positive outlet.  That day in the gym I took my pain, brought it out, and put it into the work.  I had more in the tank than anyone there because my reserve tank was full (of stress).

We all have some pain inside of us.  Perhaps some are struggling financially, some are having relationship problems and some might be just trying to get it right.  But we all have a choice: to turn the pain into flame.



About the Author: Kenton Sefcik is a father, husband, Registered Acupuncturist, published author and martial artist. He is one of the featured authors in the book, “The Best Inspirational Stories I Ever Read: Guide to a Purposeful Life” which will be released on July 30, 2012. You can read more of his ramblings at AMSDaily and at Dark Wing Chun.