So Much Cooler Online


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By Kenton Sefcik


Online transparency – what does it mean?

I think, as folks who are looking for inspiration online, we have to be careful how we view other people based on their online appearance.  Throughout our lives we are taught to not judge a book by its cover.  This implies that a poor book cover could have something amazing written inside; the same analogy can work the other way.

Just because someone has a fancy website, an interactive Facebook page, a Twitter account, Ning account and is saying that they have saved the planet due to an alien invasion – doesn’t make it so.

The problem isn’t with those who have all the fancy online gadgets; instead, it’s about how it makes us feel.  Many people feel inadequate in the online world.  Facebook status updates are often filled with positive life experiences.  Also, Facebook only allows members to ‘Like’ something.  Members don’t often air their dirty laundry online or write about family drama – and if they do, they are quickly shunned.

It’s important to keep these online celebrities in perspective.  Oftentimes, if asked, they will say that they are just like everyone else.  They have relationship troubles, money challenges and troubles with balancing all of life’s responsibilities.

What should be taken from these people is their ability to inspire and motivate – their message.  Looking beyond that, into our own inadequacies, is unhealthy and counter-productive.

About the Author: Kenton Sefcik is a father, husband, Registered Acupuncturist, published author and martial artist. He is one of the featured authors in the book, “The Best Inspirational Stories I Ever Read: Guide to a Purposeful Life” which will be released on July 30, 2012. You can read more of his ramblings at AMSDaily and at Dark Wing Chun.


  1. Sharla says:

    Right on target, Ken. The title is most befitting to this online virtual world of ours. The idea of the ‘Likes’ I have always wondered what does it mean? Is it just a numbers game? What is the result of all these so-called ‘Likes’? To me, comments feed my blog. This is where I really see if I have touched the hearts and souls of my readers.

  2. CTKWingChun says:

    I agree with you – the conversations between people online are very important. Thank you for allowing me to touch your heart! (Great blog!)

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