Realizations on my Birthday

By Buena Laoang

As July is my birth month I’ve been contemplating about how I celebrated this special event of life since the first week. I saw that, in childhood I used to spend it with the entire family and surrounded by party things and gifts. But as I reached teens to adulthood, visitors came fewer and birthdays became associated with more mature responsibilities, leading to birthdays of personal connection or special milestones.
As I said last time, the way I had birthdays changed over time.
Last Monday was my 32nd birthday, and my husband just prepared a delectable dinner, served with a beautiful, yummy cake. After the birthday song and prayer, the children and I made the wishes and blew the candle, and then they all sang happy birthday again. It was fun and lovely!
When I started to have my own family, celebrations became smaller, but then more intimate. The sweetness of cakes and the merriment of candle blowing and making wishes have been revived—for me, those are the best parts.

We usually celebrate as a family, and surprises come from my children who give me handmade cards or whatever it is they come up on their own. The magical moments, the big smiles are captured and made alive in framed photographs.

Visitors are no longer as big as in childhood occasions, but I can say that I am content and have been filled by God’s blessings and love through the years.


About the Author: Buenaflor Laoang-Rosete finished Creative Writing from the University of the Philippines Diliman, and an awardee of the National Commission for Culture and the Arts Philippines in 2001. She worked with the Tarlac College of Agriculture (a government college) as Communication Officer for eight years, and now with three kids ages 2,4,and 6, moved to becoming a full time house mom. Currently she is devoted to satisfying her husband, nurturing her kids, goes to runs and outreaches, and writes. Valuing life, she keeps her love for wisdom, photography, and immersion intact- in and out business.