Take the Opportunity Today: Accept Help

 “Life is accepting what is and working from that.” – by Gloria Naylor


Photo of Frederick Claflin

By Stuart Young

Take the opportunity today to accept help.

Only when we are able to accept help for ourselves are we truly able to offer help to someone else. It sounds obvious but we can’t help someone who doesn’t want to be helped. Unless they are ready to be helped there’s nothing anyone can do. Heighten your awareness to this by accepting help yourself.

Practise this and you’ll find how and where you are resistant to it, you’ll become aware of the signs and possibly the reasons why in some circumstances you don’t want help. From that standpoint you will more readily notice those signs in others. This will help you decide when to push and when to hold back.

Sometimes it’s those that need help the most that are the most resistant to it.

Take care!



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  1. ALEXANDRA says:

    your post topics always have the right timing in my life, today I was going to offer some unsolicited advice to a cousin of mine who had her first baby this weekend and this is just what i was going to say: accept help, ask for help…even when you feel you don’t need it, or it comes from someone you don’t think capable of helping you, you may be surprised and a new mother needs all the help she can get even when she feels she SHOULD be capable on her own…thank you Stuart! :) Alexandra (can’t find the LIKE button, but this post ALSO gets a LIKE from me!)

  2. Suffering from depression has given me a new attitude on asking for help. I know when I need to ask now before it spirals down too far. I’d really like to change my negative thinking and my life and I could use all the tools I can get. :) thanks for this and every post!

  3. Stuartart says:

    Thanks Alexandra, I’m sure your cousin will appreciate it. :)

  4. Harold Millet says:

    i always love ur post topics!
    i believe everything in this world is a give-and-take relationship. we give help to others and we also need help from them – as the saying goes no man is an island.
    and Alexandra not only you that his topics are very timely. i don’t know how this could be incidental to both of us.

    • Stuartart says:

      Thanks Harold, you describe our interdependence very well. We need each other and sometimes that’s not obvious. Often by accepting help we actually help the helper. Thanks. :)

  5. Rasha says:

    As a mother, wife, daughter, friend, and part time designer, I had to force myself to accept help from my loved ones who kept offering. We often think we can do it all and I think my mom side always wants to help and take care of everyone around me, but not the other way around!

    Thanks for all your great posts :)

    • Stuartart says:

      Thanks Rasha, I think the hardest part of accepting help is knowing when someone wants to help and when someone is interfering. Practice, as they say, makes perfect. Sometimes we’ll accept interference as help and then become annoyed. But we must learn from it and continue. None of this accepting help however should ever make us incapable of helping ourselves – this is where awareness is vital. :)

  6. Kathy Waller says:

    It’s easier to be a helper than a helpee. Being a helpee means not only having enough humility to admit needing help, but also being quiet, paying attention, following instructions, giving up knowing and controlling. Helpees have to be flexible and open to change, wiling to take chances and to learn. Yes, there’s much less stress in always being a helper.

  7. Stuartart says:

    Well said Kathy, for that reason people who help others often feel weak if they themselves need help. But it’s not weak, it’s actually having the strength to admit our weaknesses. Thanks. :)

  8. --Rick says:

    Great advice. Everyone needs others at some point in their life. It’s part of being human – so, knowing that, let others know you are in need and that their help is welcome. You’ll both feel a lot better throughout the process.

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