Take the Opportunity: Help a Neighbour

A man is called selfish not for pursuing his own good, but for neglecting his neighbor’s – by Richard Whately

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By Stuart Young

It’s a bit of a coincidence that this guide has popped up this morn- ing as I’ve already had one of my neighbours come around today. She was collecting her spare key as we were looking after her cat and rabbit whilst she was away. In our doorstep conversation she men- tioned she didn’t get a job she had recently applied for and was now in a quandary as to what direction to next take. I mentioned I had some pertinent information that might help her clear her mind and that I’d send it to her via email.

That’s my next task once I have finished writing here.

You might find that the opportunity to help one of your own neigh- bours needs to be orchestrated somewhat rather than it have fall in your lap. I urge you to consider it, there might be an elderly or injured neighbour that needs some shopping or their grass cut. Someone might need a lift to the doctor’s urgently, or even as in my case someone to look after their pet for a couple of days. Extend your hand, put yourself out and help. This is how communities are built and friends made.

Take the oppotunity. Help a neighbor today!



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  1. It IS a good day to help a neighbor. I have found that giving our hearts creates balance in life. I love the Whately quote! We are richer for what we give away, not what we cling to. Thank you for a lovely post!

  2. Stuartart says:

    Thank you Stephanie – we’re meeting all over the blogosphere today aren’t we. :)

  3. tksoni says:

    Neighbor is the first person who will help us in odd, thus we can say that he can be a true friend, relative or sibling.

  4. Kristin says:

    Great article. I often counsel people on the difference between being selfish (it is all about me) and selfless (there is no me), and help them to understand that neither are healthy. Help myself/help my neighbor is my philosophy. Thank you for sharing.

  5. Hi Stuart,
    Thanks for this, very important. I have been helping out my two closest neighbours frequently these past few days/weeks
    be good to yourself

    • Stuartart says:

      Hi David, it’s so easy to create a win-win when we do this isn’t it. Our neighbour feels valued and cared for and we feel significant and connected. It’s one of the easiest ways I know of making myself feel better – make someone else feel better! :)

  6. Helping your neighbor can extend to providing a connection between two strangers whom you just met. Let me tell you a quick story to illustrate my point.

    I recently attended a craft fair in my hometown. One table displayed items made by homeless or abused women who had been trained by the organization to make useful things that could be sold. Another table, just a few yards away, displayed jewelry made by abused women from around the world.

    Two strangers, unknown to each other, with similar missions. All it took was me acting like a bee, pollinating flowers in the field, for them to connect. I do not say this to boast, but merely to show that we are all one on some level of consciousness.

    So yes, please help your neighbor, for someday it may be yourself that is helped.

    • Stuartart says:

      Love that Kathryn, we are all bees pollinating each others lives. Let’s all pollinate someone else’s life today and deliver the rich nectar of connectedness. :)

  7. JayThe Baker says:

    Great article. Glad to see your book is being a prize…lucky are those that receive it. Continued Success, Jay

  8. Devang says:

    We always try to become some big type social workers….so we should always start from our neighbourhood. Love Thy Neighbour means this only. That’s how we can show our love and affection to them, by caring, and helping them.
    And get it, the smile on their face would make you feel really feel that you have achieved something great.
    True Story!! :)

  9. ElizOF says:

    Great post… Good neighbors add to the joy in the world. :-)

    • Stuartart says:

      So true. We’ve been in our house for 3 years (it was bought as a stepping stone to somewhere else), and now we’re not sure if we want to go anywhere else because we have so many great neighbours who are now our friends!

  10. haroldmillet says:

    You definitely talk to me Stuartart. Many times we neglected to see that or to FEEL that. Sometimes we just ignore. But extending our HELP to people in need is not being asked it is being GIVEN. And not only your helping because you can but you know that feeling of needing help.

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