Photo of Frederick Claflin
By Stuart Young
This is about being there. Not offering advice. Not pointing out
someone’s mistakes or trying to find a solution for them.
This is simply about listening. We all want to be heard, but how many
times do we feel judged or made to feel foolish. We may have been
foolish but we don’t want our noses rubbed in it, right?
And this is not about pandering to some moaner. We all know them,
they’re never happy unless they’re complaining about something or
someone. Avoid those people today and find someone that really needs
to be listened to. It may be a work colleague, it may be a friend or
family member – it may even be the person on the next table at the
When you listen to someone properly you give them your full attention,
you are fully present and it makes them feel valued and important. So
turn your mobile off and try and find a time and a place where you
won’t be disturbed (that’s the tricky part!).
When you’ve fully listened to them you’ll appreciate it more when
someone really listens to you.
Editor’s Note: Stuart Young writes his thoughts on How To Change Your Life One Day At A Time. He aims to provide a “set of 365 practical little guides which WILL change your life if you commit to implementing as many as possible.” He is also completing his book about changing your life one day at a time. You can check his thoughts here.