Wednesdays with Buena: Vows
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A vow is a solemn promise. Before you make it, you give your heart to it. When you make it, you know you are not going to break it. As being true to yourself and to the other person you made your vow with, you will keep it.
As circumstances change, or troubles arise, the ways in fulfilling a vow may vary- but in the heart it stays, a promise to accomplish. We may be tempted to forsake it, but we cannot silence it inside of us. No one forgets a vow he has made. It stays, whether one chooses to neglect it, delay it, or get it done.
That is why it is said, no one should make a vow hastily; that in many things in life he can simply say yes or no. A vow, for me, when entered into, is a commitment of faith, and in a lifetime. It is a sacred oath you offer. It is a promise that must not be broken; it finds meaning in its fulfillment.
I made four important vows in my life- in the presence of people, and with God: 1- to remember my First Love, God; 2- to love the man who brought me to the altar; 3- to build my family and raise God-fearing children; and 4- to persevere on a mission to touch lives through the gifts entrusted to me.
Yesterday-February 14, I renewed my vows. I succumb to the arms of my First Love and said yes once more. I looked longer at the face of my life partner (after the gaps over the weeks) and saw the man who kept with me through the years of searching, forgetting, and inability to forgive- and I loved him more. I received the hugs and kisses of my children with tears in my eyes- because there had been moments I thought of leaving them when I could not see myself in them anymore- and I reaffirmed to become an even more determined and passionate mom to them all.
And now- no matter where I am, whatever only I have got, whatever lies ahead, and whoever I have become, I will persevere to fulfill my vows. I will use the gifts entrusted me. I will mold children- be they on the streets. I will talk about hope, faith, and love- however I’d been broken. I will write pieces to remind us of the desolate we need to care for too, of the wretches we should not label, of the people different from us we need to accept as they are.
Or simply, to remind us of the promises you made to yourself, to others, or to God.
For we are under vows. We are going to be careful with them, and keep them.
This week- fulfill your vows.