Wednesdays with Buena: Feel the Beauty Around You

Photo of Shem-shem Pablo

By Buenaflor Laoang

Dear Me,

That’s great; I see you’re doing finer now. You have reminded yourself what you’ve been created to be- a loving, generous, beautiful spirit- and it’s clear in your mind. You hold it in your heart.

 You have also managed to get that body moving! You no longer mind if it’s aching or if it’s not used to an endeavor, you just know you have to do it! Say goodbye to those old, spoiled lazybones!

You are determined to be a changed self. You see hope once again.  Enough holding on to the ugly details of your past failures. Now, you see things possible. To redeem, to glow, to have that beautiful smile on your face once again.

Keep it up.

Yours,

Yourself

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For the past two posts in Wednesdays with me, I shared with you two secrets in getting REFRESHed, a list of nice things to do seven weeks before New Year. Your first week starts with R-remembering who you are. And then on the second, you were with me in E- energizing yourself.

Now, we move to our task this week, F –feeling the beauty around you.

As I promised last week, I want to tell you about the wonderful things I discovered during my last week’s run:

1. Little mushrooms sprouting beautifully around a mountain of hay. You touch them, and they are so soft and tender; a single pull would hurt their delicate nature. But while the Philippine carabao feeds nearby, the mushrooms look undeterred—still majestic in stature. It’s like they know very well that Somebody up there takes care of them; no worries.  

 

2. The simplicity yet happiness of farm life, with all the farm folks greeting you on your way. They are mostly old men attending to their crops, younger men starting their day cleaning up their farm machines or drying grains, and old and young women alike lulling their babies or organizing their sari-sari stores—almost everyone is greeting you! You will just glow on the cheeks! It will seem that they are just waiting for you to come out and be their friend!

 

3. The rays of the sun rising behind the mountain and clouds. You see the light slowly enveloping the entire sky. The birds start to fly together and sing. The crops and the grasses and the trees sway with the fresh air. If you get out in the morning and bring yourself close to nature, you’d see all these things and more. You can just say as I did, “all things –really- so bright and wonderful!”

There are many more other wonders I’ve seen during my early jogs. Daily, I am added a new discovery of beauty. And I just have to feel and embrace the beauty around me! The beauty of little things like the mushroom that inspired a great character within me; the beauty of good relationships with people around me (it’s not a lonely world after all); the beauty of life and natural resources provided for us to enjoy and breathe with gladness, daily.

I learned that sometimes, we just have to get out.  And feel the beauty around.

 

Editor’s Note: Hop on to Buenaflor Laoang’s Facebook Page - you might be able to socialize and interact with her. Ask her questions about this REFRESHed series!

 

 

The Three “-ations”

Photo of Randy Legaspi

By Ronald Colunga

There are three things that everyone should apply to their lives. The three “-ations” as i call them. The Ations are three certain things that can help anyone in their lives, and anyone can apply it to their lives. The first being Inspiration, second is Motivation, third is Education.

Inspiration

Inspiration is the process of being mentally stimulated to do or feel something. We have all seen inspirational videos that registers in our mind, and makes us do things out of the ordinary. People are one of the main causes of inspiration, lets talk about an individual by the name of Nick Vujacic. Nick has no limbs, and he is one of the most inspirational people in the world. Nick shows us that life is hard, but when you stop trying is when you have failed. When you are down in life and you are trying to get up, if you try 100 times, 1000 times, or 10,000 times to get up and you fail every time, if you give up will you ever get up? No, you will not get up! But if you keep trying you will get up! Please watch this video of Nick and let him inspire you. NEVER GIVE UP!

 (Around 1:25 is where the speech comes in.)

Motivation

Motivation is the reason or reasons one has for acting or behaving in a particular way. Motivation and Inspiration correlate with each other as you could tell. Lets talk about motivating other people. Think back to the Will’s, Wont’s, and Cant’s (See will’s, wont’s, and cant’s post) telling someone they can’t do it, is demotivating an individual, telling them they won’t do it is opposing a individual, but telling someone they will do it is motivating in itself.  Think about it, if a person keeps telling another person they will do something, they can do something, that certain individual will start to believe it himself and he will never give up. That is motivation! Now how do you motivate yourself? Easy! Tell YOURSELF you will do it. Tell yourself you can achieve what you want in life, and you will achieve it. There is no one to stop to you but yourself!

Education

Education is the process of receiving or giving systematic instruction. Look at the two key words in that definition “Receiving” and “Giving.” Lets look at giving first, giving education is just as important as receiving education. Now I’m not telling you to go out there and tell everybody they are wrong and that you are right. What i am saying, is if you see someone struggling with something in their lives help them out. Educate them, send them videos to look at. Give them a book to read! If they ask you for advice to tell them to “google” it, help them find the answer. There is plenty of ways to educate someone, now lets take the initiative and do it!

On to the “Receiving” portion of education. Throughout your life people will help you, they will guide you and give there opinions on the right choices to make. I cannot stress this enough always, always, always, always, listen to what people have to say. It WILL help you in life. Listen to their opinions, listen to their struggles and learn from their mistakes not just your own.

Lets end this post off with a quick lesson on educating yourself. How? READ READ READ! Read a book! Books have all the information that you need! All you have to do is get a book and read it. Also watch videos on a little something you are trying to learn. A quick 5 minute video can educate you for a lifetime. What I like to do is Read a book and watch a video in the morning, as well as at night. Like a said, just a few pages of reading and a short video twice a day will change your life. Never stop educating yourself, there is always something new to learn.

The video for the day!

How to Spend a Day?

Photo of Absterrabi

By Alpha

How would you spend a day?

If I asked you that question, would you have an answer for me - right away?

While you were reading the above photo that contains words and things that one can do with a day, would you do the same? How would you create your day? How would you like to spend your day? What would your list look like?

Would you have 13 things as well? Or maybe more?

Remember everyday is your day; your special present. You are given this moment to do things as you please. You are given the strength and the mind to make things happen for you. It is all up to you – including how you spend a day.

Last week I talked about some of the things you can do in 24 hours and I have shared with you one of my favorite days over the summer and how I spent it with my family. If I were to have that day again, I would certainly play reruns of it more than I can count with my fingers and toes.

Saturday Success Story #16: HONEY ROSE MIGUEL

 

When you go out in the classrooms, things are happening rapidly and things are happening beyond the teacher’s control. One of the intangible factors is the motivation level of the students. Some students respond well with extrinsic rewards and others with intrinsic. By human nature, every person is motivated to do something especially if there is a certain goal/reward at the end of the game. Yes – studying is a game in itself. It involves a coach (the teacher), the players (the students) and the rules of the games (see a copy of the school/student’s handbook).

And this is where it can get complicated – or maybe not.

Teachers definitely love students who are exceptionally good in and out of the classroom. These students make their lives easier and make them feel that they are really doing their job very well. Not that they do not feel fulfilled after calming down a group of rambunctious students in a day’s work – but it is a different feeling when a teacher delivers very well all that she has prepared for the day. It is in fact, a milestone for the teacher! The way students respond to classroom instructions could be taken as an indication of how effective a teacher is. This is actually becoming the norm or would be the norm of the education department of the United States soon. With the Race to The Top project of the US Department of Education, every public school teacher hopes that he can educate a class where all fifty students focus on the subject matter and accomplish what was asked of them to do in a given amount of time, without unnecessary classroom distraction. Talk about super students and super classrooms – but this is what every teacher’s dream to have!

This is why picking the best from the cream of the crop is special.

And then it becomes a gift when you are related to a student who is the ideal member of the classroom every teacher should have.

Today’s success story is my own sister. She is our youngest and also (I think) the prettiest! At an early age, she was crowned as a Camiling beauty queen. Although she didn’t graduate high school as the valedictorian, she has been a consistent honor student throughout high school. Now, on her fourth year in nursing school she has her eyes on the prize. She knows what she needs to do and how to do it. She is remarkable in her own ways as a student! She capitalizes on her strengths and learns from her weaknesses in order to grow better as a person and as a student.

Growing up, I saw her becoming who she is today: beautiful, intelligent and ambitious! Her birth order is partly to blame (read: being the youngest has its many advantages!). Her attitude is absolutely a push factor. Her study habits define her; her self-care  routine is impeccable;  and her goals - all lined up! A young adult with a determined spirit, she is a picture perfect for a classroom model! A true blooded Taurus, she is practical, purposeful, has a keen eye for beauty , extremely sensitive, patient and has a one-track mind about doing the job right…

and  there is more to learn from her.

Read more about Ms. Honey Rose de Luna Miguel, a daughter, a sister, and a notable student. This is her story:

AMS: Tell us about yourself – your family and education.


Honey Rose: My life now depends wholly on studying and schooling. I am 20, a senior Nursing student, and probably will still spend 4,6, or even higher years in school to take up Medicine. I can imagine that I would spend almost of my entire life going to school, taking information, but still want to learn for more because I know that my schooling will benefit me greatly in the future. As my parents would say “Education is the key to success”. Both of my parents, Mr. Conrado S. Miguel and Mrs. Leonida L. Miguel, are public school teachers before when they were still here in the Philippines. They are retired teachers now and together in Boston. I can recall during my elementary years when my parents always give me something to do during school vacation. They used to ask me to study about the subjects that I will be having the following school year. This perhaps instilled me a sense of responsibility with regards to studies.

AMS: What made you want to be in the nursing program? What do you think sets this course apart from the rest?

Honey Rose: Honestly, when I finished my high school then, I did not know what course would I take because I did not know what I really wanted for my career. Or simpler to say, I did not know what career was all about. So, my parents decided for me to take nursing. I did not make myself choosy and pursued with that course. It is just now that I realized I made the right choice because nursing really serves as a milestone in heading for a more promising future, especially when you work abroad.

AMS: How is it like to be a senior in college and also an A+ student?

Honey Rose: Being one is a demanding task. I am not confined only inside the campus to attend lectures. I also go from hospital to hospital where I am assigned for my clinical experiences and completion of cases. Plus the advanced review for the nursing board exam during Saturdays and Sundays.

AMS: Do you consider yourself a nerd? If yes, why? If not – who do you think is a nerd?

Honey Rose: A big NO! Because somehow I can be the lazy student who never reads any lesson on the night but still have words in my mouth to recite when the class begins. When I say that someone is a nerd, this kind of person does everything more than what is expected, as if everyone else’s has gone wrong.

AMS: How do you balance school and friends? What is your daily routine?

Honey Rose: I just set my priorities and stick to it! Like when my friends ring up or want me to hang out with them to parties, I learn to say no, especially when I have a class the next day. But of course, I will have to put up with seeing them when I’m available or when there’s not a lot to do.
Okay. So this is what my daily routine looks like. I basically wake up everyday 4 hours earlier before my class time. Yes everyday! I have my class from Mondays-Sundays! But you might be thinking why it takes me too long to prepare for school. Well it’s not that I cook my breakfast or something because we have our household help to do that. I just take an effort (a bit) to look good (laughs). Now if you’re one of these girls who thinks, “No way I’m going to get up early for some stupid beauty rituals — I want someone to like my hairy legs and all, I’m a free spirit, blah blah. . . .” Fine. I wish you luck! But for those of you who make the most of yourself, you can even ask me top tips on everything about the art of beauty. It’s one of my areas of personal expertise. PM me or freely write on my facebook wall.

AMS: What motivates you to always be the best you can be at school?

Honey Rose: My motivation is the rewards that I plan to give myself when I meet my targets, like going to the spa or buy that dress that I’ve been eyeing for months or whatever it is I want to do.

AMS: What are your strategies in acing quizzes and tests?

Honey Rose: Oh, I aced my quizzes and tests when I get adequate sleep. So it is really important for me to have some early nights — especially around exam times. It also works putting a few drops of essential oils on a tissue and inhale when I feel like my head is overstuffed with facts and my mind is growing fuzzy and weary.

AMS: Can you share to us your philosophy in life (in general) and as a student?

Honey Rose: We have this family tradition during the eve of New Year, our father would always asks us about our new year’s resolutions and ends up saying to us “Start the year right and end it right.” This is really true that what you started will be the ending result. Just like in studies, when you begin to manage it positively, results will also be positive.

AMS: Who inspires you? What makes you want to be the “best”?

Honey Rose: Of course my parents are the ones who give me inspiration. I know they are expecting something from me and I want to repay the same effort they bestowed on me. For all the time, they would devote their best just to make sure that everything about us is fine. I give praise and thanks for having wonderful set of parents.

AMS: Since you are the youngest in our family, do you believe that has something to do with your success at school?

Honey Rose: Yes. Being the youngest in the family means you have been compared to your elder sister/s and/or brother/s. In fact, I envy you before because you always get the praises and affection from Mama and Papa. I wanted to win that seat too, so I do better in school and get high grades and it worked!

AMS: What/who is /are biggest influence in your academic endeavor?

Honey Rose: My teachers, and more importantly my parents who always push me to greater heights and always there to remind me of the benefits I can get from good works.

AMS: I know you are also a beauty queen – if you were to choose between having looks but not brains or brains without the looks – which one would you want to be?

Honey Rose: Neither! In this day and age, there’s more to being cool than just wearing the right outfit. It pays for a girl to be street smart as well as beautiful.

AMS: In today’s generation, how do you see yourself apart from the rest?

Honey Rose: It has everything to do with accepting myself and appreciating who I am. Other teenagers that I know simply are not contented being themselves. They hate their face, their body, their hair, their dress, their speech manners, their capacity to think and so on and so forth. Hence, making them feel inferior to others. If you are feeling the same way, take it from me, you have to VALUE YOURSELF NOW FOR NO ONE ELSE WILL DO IT FOR YOU.

AMS: As a student, what are some of the comments your teachers have made about you?

Honey Rose: “You did great in class!” ; “You were an asset.” ; “You got the highest mark among all the seniors!” All of these become my encouragements. It is heart-pounding and self-boosting and makes me feel good.

AMS: How important is it to prepare for an exam? What do you do to prepare?

Honey Rose: Preparing for an exam can be the path to greater achievements in the future. Besides  providing information, it also teaches me discipline, teaches me persistence and determination, teaches me time management, and gives me a lot of self-respect, confidence and pride for the achievements I receive.
I have a specific place to study where there are no distractions and I have space to lay out my books. But I don’t try to read all the set books in one short period! Time-management. A reasonable amount each day works better than last minute panic-cramming as I have so much to take in.

AMS: Next year is your graduation, what are your plans?

Honey Rose: It can be as simple as dressing up, planning a themed party or asking you and Mama and Papa to have your vacation here and see me march on the stage.

AMS:  How do you see yourself 5 years from now.

Honey Rose: My great expectation in life is yet to come. And it is now in the making. Maybe I will divulge it to you when this comes true in the not so far future.

AMS: Finally, from a student’s point of view – what is success.

Honey Rose: Success starts within you. It’s either you work with it or you ignore it!

Happiness – What makes life worth living?

By Alpha

Today is what is supposed-to-be the index of most consumer reports on the buying power of consumers and how the state of economy will or will not improve. You’d hear it in the next few days the analysis of business researchers and corporate executives the data of the United States spending today’s Black Friday.  This also projects the holiday buying season on how the market for retailers and store will do in the next few weeks of holiday shopping . But despite all the any nature of buying that money can do, I know for sure that a lot of the people out there are empty inside.

I’ve heard it from people left and right that buying makes them happy! Heck – I think like that too, sometimes or maybe a lot of times! But, in reality something can not really be bought by money alone. Think about the last time you were able to save enough money to buy that expensive Rolex watch and once it is finally strapped on your wrist, the happiness was fleeting and in a few seconds on looking the dial and the minute hand synchronize with your normal life, that feeling and emotion is gone!

But happiness is one subject that is being explored by many psychologists, monks and ordinary people like you and me. Some of us even try to chase it but sometimes we do not really know what kind of happiness are we chasing. We are not definitive of what happiness feels or of what happiness is.

Today, after you have amassed half of your Christmas shopping needs I need you to unpack them and sit down for a few minutes. Once you are all set, then together we will unpack happiness – and what makes life worth living?

Here we go:

Matthieu Ricard, Buddhist monk, a French translator and the right hand man of the Dalai Lama who has given up his life as a European cellular genetic scientist  to go to the Himalayas and to study Buddhism. He has been in the Himalayas for forty years and now he is an internationally known author, photographer and also a founding member of a charity organization, Karuna-Shechen.  He is also sometimes called the “happiest man in the world”.

Below are some of the quotes from his book Happiness:

  1. Is happiness a skill that once acquired endures through the ups and downs of life?
  2. For some people talking about the search of happiness seems almost bad in taste.
  3. By Happiness, I mean here a deep sense of flourishing that arises from exceptionally healthy mind. This is an optimal state of being.
  4. Happiness is also a way of interpreting the world, since while it may be difficult to change the world, it is always possible to change the world the way we look at it.
  5. Anyone who enjoys inner peace is no more broken by failure than he is inflated with success.

It doesn’t stop there, today I want you to continue on with the rest of Matthie Ricard’s thoughts on happiness below. Here is a video that he presented on TED. There are also a few more of this series that you may also find on the internet but I will try to share with you in the next few weeks.

In the meantime, here is what I can say to you:

Be happy – and be in the moment with the video of Matthieu Ricard on Happiness: